Ladies! thank you for this post I was just thinking the same thing... How to wear my hair... I too want to show length, be romantic without being promy. I just saw Natalie Portman in US with a darling pin curl... maybe incorporate that too?
I want my hair to be sexy and free too kohler, not sure how that will translate to a stylist at my locale though?
I also thought about having it down for the cermony, just blown out and a little curled at the ends, and then for reception the side swept pony? but again I wouldn't that want to look too 80's. I agree with Dirty, keep trying things, and also a hair trial will be really informative. I am going to be visiting NYC and there is a great salon there so I hope to ask them for suggestions.
If the hair is down, I definitely think you need a blow out and curl and product so that it still looks special, not just like a brush and go day.