hair and makeup anxiety

I had my trial with my hair and makeup artist last week, and I was really happy with the results.

But it took a few days to drag it out of FH that he was really freaked out by how drastically different I looked. I usually don't wear makeup, and when I do, it's really light. His main problem was that I didn't look the way I usually do. Well, DUH! It's our wedding day! I don't want to look like I just rolled out of bed!

It also makes me feel awful about the way I must look. I really felt pretty on the day of the trial, but then to have him react like that made me feel like there's no hope for me if professionally applied makeup and hair doesn't make me look attractive. :-(

So he wants me to do another trial, and he wants to be there. Which I think is weird. But it'd at least guarantee that he feels like he recognizes who he's marrying at the altar...

What would you do?

Have you talked with your photographer about it? It seems like that would also be a priority in the makeup. Honestly, in my opinion, it's one day and you're going to be in a white gown (I assume). So you're not going to look "normal" you're going to look dressed up and bridal. He's going to be wearing a tux (I assume again). So maybe tell him to keep that in mind and maybe the makeup won't stand out as much as it would in your day-to-day garb.

I understand how you feel. I normally dont wear a lot of makeup and I always am running into the same problem. My husband is used to seeing me with little or no makeup. Maybe you could try toning down the make up you had done or try playing up one area, (eyes, lips, etc.)

I'm sure you looked gorgeous, but the groom-to-be was probably just more used to the way you look without all the make-up. You can discuss this with your make-up artist & see what she (or he) recommends. You can let her know that you don't want to look too different, so maybe go for a more natural look. Make-up artists are professionals & they must have different brides who want all kinds of different style, so I'm sure your make-up artist will come up with a look that's going to make both you & your FI feel comfortable. Just talk to her & if she's ok to do another trial with your FI there, you should have no problem finding that PERFECT look together! You'll look & feel BEAUTIFUL on your wedding day!!!! Good luck!!! ;)

Do you have any pictures of the make-up look you're going for? Here's a photo campaign of brides and the make-up is very natural. Also, remember that make-up has too be a little heavier for photos...you and your FI are probably not used to that at all. That said, you can have a full face of make-up and it can still look pretty natural.

This bride, for example:

BEFORE


AFTER

She has a lot of make-up on, but it looks natural. She has foundation, powder, eye shadow, mascara, eyeliner, blush, lipstick and lip gloss. But the colors are pretty neutral and not far from her natural colorings.

Have you talked to your makeup artist about making you up to looking you on your best, most relaxed and well-rested day? That could mean making your complexion look flawless with some well match foundation and powder. Some peachy blush, and neutral eyeshadows...brown black mascara and dark brown eyeliner. If you want to skip the eyeliner, it will look less "made-up" but be sure your make-up artist balances your eyes with your mouth. Also a lot of natural flattery can be added to your face can be done with simple highlight and contouring powders. I suggest collecting some pics of the look you like and take it from there...

Here some more pics:























And here is a more "glammed" up look, that still is soft and natural looking:

I agree with previous posts. It's your big day and I think everyone expects you to look special and different from your everyday look. When my friend got married in college, she looked so GORGEOUS with all the hair and makeup, which was very different from her everyday look but looked VERY natural. It was like she was a princess. =) I wish there was a class that could teach you how to look that good everyday!

I agree with everyone...you're make-up was probably gorgeous...your FI was just not used to it becuase of everyday life looks, but you're supposed to look gorgeous on your wedding day....also, do try for the natural look...the pictures posted above is great...
will you post pics. of your next make up trial....? if you don't mind...

Thanks everyone for all your feedback & support, and special thanks to Lori for finding all those wonderful pics! I especially love the before- and after-photos of the bride. My trial look was a blend of the first couple of semi-glam pics, and seeing it among all the other examples, I can see where FH might have been a bit shocked to see me look like that all of a sudden...

Thankfully, my makeup/hair artist is really supportive and helpful, and our photographer is a friend of mine, so I'll try to get some feedback from him before we go for the second trial. :-)

It's just amazing to me how fixed an idea FH has of the way I "should" look. Also, I have friends whose BFs get worried whenever they get hair cuts because they don't want to see too drastic a change. Is this a typical male thing? ;-)

Happy long weekend to everyone!

My FI likes it better when I don't wear makeup too. I guess it depends on the guy. I agree with previous posts that wearing a lot of makeup on your wedding is great as long as the coloring is natural and you look good!

Glad I could be of help...if you basically never wear make-up then going for a GLAM look would be a stark contrast. If you liked how it looked, then I say go for it! BUT, if you really didn't look like yourself then consider a lighter color palette that is more "natural". I think we all want to be GORGEOUS on our wedding day, but we want to look the ourselves, not some major extreme makeover where we hardly recognize ourselves in the pics. Maybe that's what your FI was getting at...he wants to see YOU! So maybe your make-up artist can use colors that are similar to your own natural ones, just pumped up a bit?

As for guys in general, yeah, I think it IS a guy thing! My FI prefers me in NO make-up and long hair that's not pulled back or necessarily style...I gues WILD woman is his thing! And I have friends too who decided to get short hair cuts and their guys initially flipped! I don't know what it is about men and long hair! Of course, afterwhile, they adjusted to it, but sheesh! What if we had a hissy fit because they shaved their goatee or beard off! LOL