Curious.... what was the hardest adjustment you went through the first few months of being married????? moving in together? changing name? not being a bride to be anymore? no more wedding planning? buying a house? 

Love to hear all the different things we all go through

For me I really think it was no longer have the huge project of planning a wedding.... On our honeymoon I actually had periods of time I would just fall asleep because I didn't know what to think about anymore, and acutally bored myself to sleep...... 

I've lived with DH for 4 years before we got married, so that wasn't an adjustment at all. 

I'd have to say mine was putting our money together. We lived together and we're both pretty laid back. I make more than him and I came in with more money but also more debt. It took me a while but I've gotten to the point where I see money as ours and not mine or his. I have an awesome budget spreadsheet that I use so we are paying off debt like crazy! After our AHR we'll be on the road to paying off a bunch. I also ask him and he never cares lol Once our CC are paid off we're saving for the HONEYMOON! I'm in the process of changing my name but I've already made peace with that b/c I was seriously debating keeping my name but NOW that we're married I want his so we'll seem like a family forealsies!

It was moving in together for me; I had always lived by myself, with family, or in a roommate situation in college, but never with a person I was romantically involved with.  So sharing a bed with someone, making a home, splitting chores, finding ways for him to help me, were all a bit of a challenge.  We've kind of established our routines now, and things are going very well.

We only been married a little over two weeks, so I don't have any real input yet. We lived together a year before we got married, and I am happy we did or that would have been my issue.  It took about four to five months for us to get use to living with one another. Right now we are recovering from a minimal amount of debt from the wedding and he is having a time with that. We go to the Ohio Jazz Festival every year, that is our tradition and we won't be able to go this year and he is really bummed out about that. I did everything I could to manage it so we could go, but I told him we just can't make it this year. Looks like we won't be able to go to Chicago either in September for my birthday and he is bummed about that as well. We have to get our affairs back in order before we can do our weekend getaways and attending concerts again. Besides that, so far everything is going great and I hope for the most part it continues!

DH and I had lived together for years before we got married but after we got married we merged all of our money. That has been difficult especially with us buying a house it was weird for him to comment on every penny i spend! But we have gotten through it and next week we are closing on my dream home!

Ditto some of you -- the merging of money :-) I am very conservative and like my budgets, spreadsheets and savings goals. DH is more laid-back, so I felt like I was being strict or a fun-sucker when I tried to keep things in line. Thankfully, he came around really quick and it was only tough for the first couple months.

Surprisingly, even though we hadn't lived together before we got married, that wasn't as hard of an adjustment as I thought it would be. It probably helps that we had to move across the country right after the wedding, and all we have here is each other!

My DH and I lived together for years before the wedding.... so that wasn't an adjustment for us. I would say the hardest thing was realizing that WE were a family... and we weren't a part of his family or my family... that we are our own family now. And I think the first few disagreements after your married seem harder.... I don't know how to explain they were just different then disagreements before we were married.

Oh Kristen I love how you put that. Yeah I'm still kind of struggling with the idea that we're our own family now. I had a hard time deciding to change my name or not. I knew I would but I wanted to want to change my name. After we got married I love that I am. I think what made me realize that we're our own family is that we only share a last name with his dad side. I love his dad side more. His mom side is not like my family at all so it made it hard to be associated with them by name but I'm not in that way. His sister (her and I have a weird relationship. I was going to say love/hate but I'm pretty sure we don't love each other lol we (I) just try to get along and avoid any disputes and I try not to get mad when she clearly tries to leave me out of everything family related when I AM family now and she likes to starts stuff b/c I truly believe she is unhappy with her life) His sister doesn't have the same last name anymore b/c she is married. So I feel we are more separate from his and my family and are more of our own... I REALLY thought about huh lol but it comforts me knowing that we're our own and that's how I came to realize that lol

I'm very much like Debbie - I like to save and plan with only the occasional splurge, and although Dan and I did live together for a few months before the wedding, the money issue came after it. I think it was especially difficult bc a few weeks after the wedding we decided to sell our condo (a place I bought well before meeting Dan) in order to buy a larger single family home. The money issues really came out then!