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02/24/2012 at 01:30 pm

I will be 29 and DH will be 35 when we have our 1st baby in July.  I don't consider that to be young, but I also don't consider that to be 'old' by today's standards.  People are having children much later than that. So I think it's a good in-between age :)

DH and I will be just a couple months shy of having been married for 3 years before our LO arrives.  So we've definitely had our time together as a couple and had time to travel to many different places.  We spent 2 months traveling last year, which was an amazing experience. I finished college in 4 years and have a great stable career that I've been at for 6 years. So the timing for us was just right- I don't feel like I'm going to be giving anything up to become a parent.

Everyone just has to do what is right for them and their particular situation.

02/24/2012 at 04:42 pm

I'm 30 and my DH is 36, we just had our first baby - a boy in January.

Like a couple of the other ladies if I had got pregnant in my early 20's I probably would have had an abortion...
DH and I have been together almost 9 years and married for 2 1/2 years - we knew we wanted to be married at least a year before having a baby...it was actually closer to 2 (I was pregnant on our 2nd)

All my friends had kids early and I saw how they werent able to do things that I was able to do - I think that made me want to wait as well. I also wanted to wait until DH and I were married as well, had a house etc. I've been at my job for almost 11 years so it's stable.

The only drawback of waiting is having kids back to back, I don't want to be pregnant past 35 so we will be trying for #2 in March / April next year and maybe #3 after that.

02/28/2012 at 11:19 pm

I am another one for wanting a baby later on in life ,,,for me its selfish reason partly like vacations, sleep etc but also financially we will be completely set if we wait till early to mid thirties versus 20's when we were both in college still

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02/29/2012 at 11:36 am

I was 29 when I had my first baby with my husband who was 39.  For me, I wanted to have a college degree, a stable career, get married, have a house all BEFORE baby.  It mattered to me to be able to fully provide for my family and accomplish some of my goals that I thought would be challenging to do so with a baby (like get a college degree).  I'm very happy with the choices I made and waiting until we were "prepared" in a sense.

I plan on having a second child within the next 2 years since I, too, don't want to be past my mid 30's.

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03/01/2012 at 12:03 pm

This is a tricky question, because sometimes life just works out a certain way, whether it was according to plan or not. If you had asked me as a teenager, or even in my 20's, i would have told you that mid-late 20's would be the ideal time to start a family. Old enough to have finished college and begun establishing a career, but still young enough to be energetic and look forward to all of your kids' life accomplishments (college graduation, marriage, playing with your own grandkids).

I had my daughter at 35, because that is simply the way life worked out for me, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I am in a wonderful relationship with an amazing man whom I adore. Had we met at any other point in our lives, I am not sure we would have appreciated each other (or anyone else, for that matter) quite as much. We also have a lovely home in a great neighborhood with no financial strains, and a fabulous extended family, which might make our relationship easier. Bringing our daughter into a happy, supportive, stable family means the world to me.

Timelines, age, or logical next steps didn't factor into making my family a happy one. But we are happy. We all adore each other to bits.

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03/02/2012 at 08:14 am

Well...I had planned on having a baby in my late 20s (28-29 was ideal to me), but life just didn't work out that way.  God had a different plan I guess (P.S. say no to the Nuvaring.  I've known 2 other women who got pregnant while on it too.)

I will be 25 when the baby arrives though, so that it still an okay age to me.  I'm very lucky to have already graduated from college, established my career, and I'm already married.  DH is still in college, so financially that's kept us in quite a financial pickle, but he will be graduating just a few months after the baby is born. 

Ideally, I would have waited because by your late 20s-early 30s you mostly have your finances together for it.  I would have preferred to own a house rather than renting an apartment.

The upside is:  I will have more energy to play with my child.  I will still be young when he/she graduates from high school/college, gets married, and has kids of his/her own.  I won't have to be an old grandma right off the bat (God-willing). :)

And because I'm younger, I am at a low risk for chromosomal diseases and complications.  My OB said I'm actually at the prime age for having a baby.  After 30, risks increase. 

Pros and cons to every side, but it will happen when it's supposed to happen. 

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