My sister is getting engaged this weekend. I don't know how to be supportive. We always said I was supposed to do everything first. I am feeling nothing but bitterness and jealousy and she can't know anything about it. It's a surprise... so I have a smile on my face... like nothing is happening inside... but all I can say is- ouch.

Hang in there sweets! One thing I remember reading in this book called Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is when there is something that you want- support and be happy for others who want the same things! It's coming for you too, at the end of the day it doesn't who gets it first! As long as you both are happy. It doesn't mean that she's loved more or better than you, the timing is just different! Be happy and supportive, I really think you'll feel better!!

I know how you feel and you have a right to those feelings. I know you well be supportive and genuinely happy for her. Even though it hurts . Trust me I know the feeling all to well. Just put on the brave face and smile and say yay and all the things your suppose to say!

I agree! We all know the exact same feelings. One of my ffi's brothers and his little sister were married before us AND another couple of or friends just got engaged this week (along with a few other weddings inbetween). None of which were together obviously as long as us, but just be happy for her and supportive and you know when it's your turn she will do the same for you. It is just different timing for everyone.

Thank you everyone. It's just always been a competition for us. And the thing is, she is the golden child. It isn't her fault. I don't fault her for it. She is still my best friend. It's just that our parents go GA GA over everything HER... and everything me is just not as great to them. SIGH... She and her FFI made the surprise trip to the LAND OF RINGS last night. Another thing that is killing me... they don't have cell phones... so I don't even know what the plick she is thinking, feeling, etc... I am sitting 13 hrs away in the dark.

I agree with what Peaceislove is saying!  It will happen for you, it may not be now!

And I can understand how the whole golden child thing is.  I have an older and younger sister and they're both more golden than I am.  Better in school, have more hobbies, have a more interesting life, etc etc.

So, if you'd like, we can be not-so-golden together :]