Help!! Invitation etiquette

Thanks girl! I'm going to do it and see what she says back. Her and I don't talk on the phone often, so I won't want to call her and seem like I'm attacking her. I'll let you know what happens. Thanks so much for everyone's advice.

GL!  I know sometimes being the bigger person is exhausting. 

Thanks Sandra!! Let's see how she responds to my email...

Goodness, where would I be without you girls??? SO my friend responded to my email. In so many words, she says she feels really bad and that their list was finalized prior to our engagement (which I doubt, but whatever). She asking if I would feel comfortable waiting a couple of weeks to see who is not attending and then she will let me know so my FI can come.

I'm not sure how to respond to that. I don't think I necessarily want to wait until someone says no so she can make room for my FI. I was really hoping it was an oversight. I would have felt better had she sent me an email prior to sending me the wedding invitation.

Man, weddings suck!

oh no!  well that changes things a little for me.  i wouldn't want to wait either and would just be done with it and plan the FI's b-day weekend without the complication of the wedding.  i think it's up to you whether you invite her or not, but she'll probably be expecting an invitation, as wrong as that sounds.  boo!

that sucks! i wouldn't wait around either. its actually deamining. Like Miss Q said, go ahead and plan the wonderful weekend with your fiance. And i would only invite her to your wedding and not a plus one. I can be evil. haha.

Yea, I agree. Now she's putting me on the "B" list and I know it!! What makes me made is that she knew we were engaged when she sent the invite, so you would think she would've waited to send it to me until she found out whether she could invite my FI or not. IF she really wanted him there, of course.

Yah, I personally would just decline it.  I have had to 'make adjustments' this whole year to our guest list b/c of people changing their situations- if she wants you there she would have respected that, b/c even BEFORE you were "engaged" you must have been in a serious relationship with him- which IMO still calls for an invite, you know?  weird to me. . .

- HMM :)

Sigh...I just wrote back and said, don't stress about it. I know how complicated these things can be. We'll have to get together after your honeymoon so we can celebrate. And I'm going to decline the RSVP. I'm just really bothered. FI says I should go without him, but I don't want to!

to be honest, it sounds like your fiance said you should go without him just because he knows you wanted to go. however it would really mean a lot to him if you stuck by him rather than giving in to your curiosity of your friends wedding. thats a major snub. its also his birthday weekend. forget her! she's mean! haha.