Hello ladies, a friend of mine who is getting married in July refuses to use honor and obey in her vows. How do you feel about using honor and obey? Would you take it out?

Personally, I would use it just because it is part of the classical vows.  However, we are having an outdoors/beach wedding, so we are not saying the classic vows.  I have no problem promising to honor and obey.  Honor yes, but I know that FI would never expect me to 'obey' him, so it's not a big deal for me. 

hell to the no, but that's just me. I agree honor is different than obey. There's only so far I'm going for the sake of "tradition" and reciting cheuvanistic and oppressive vows isn't for me.

But, that's just me being picky about words, lol

I would take it out. I agree, I like the old classic vows, but when they were originally written wives were expected to "honor and obey" which is soooooo not the case today. Im taking that part out but leaving the rest.

Not a fan of the words personally, but if you like it... go for it!

Nope I really not feeling those words they wil taking out

I'm a big fan of NOT following tradition, there are things that our grandmothers did that I would totally never consider doing.... somethings are just meant for the past! I think of vows like that and it remind me of a time when women couldn't vote or own property.... I would opt to change the words "honor and obey" to "love and respect" 

It doesn't really bother me whether it is used or not I guess... but I would agree with jesandshan, I would probably use "love and respect". Sounds better

I agree - love and respect is my top choice :)

It will not be in our wedding vows.  Only animals are supposed to obey...I am not a pet and neither is he.