Our vows has nothing in about Honor and obey! I'm Afrikaans so ours is much different. In Afrikaans ours says "Om mekaar Lief te he en te respekteer" It means so love and respect each other...

It wont be in our vows either. I'm not obeying anyone, ever! I think we're going with the love and respect and other traditional verses plus adding a few personal ones as well.

i believe that you honor and only obey if he is right. you know he's right if he puts god first

We are sticking to the traditional vows. If it was good enough for my aunt and uncle for 61 years of marriage, my mom and dad for 52 years of marriage and counting...then surely it is good enough for me. If the married couple is clear of what these words means to them individually and then discusses it with their future spouse as well as what their expectations are of their future spouse as it relates to this part of their vows then there should be no reason to elimiate these words from their vows

I'm just saying.

Cheers ladies!