How long did it take for DTD to stop hurting after the first time if you can remember?

I am not doing it untill out wedding night and am worried that it will hurt for a while and ruin the HM?

Any advice and help or suggestions of products to numb or prevent it hurting??

It doesnt hurt if he  gives you a foreplay  and you are relaxed  and if it hurts the next day due to what you did, you need to see a doctor.

Remember there is no membrane to prevent  a cock from comming into the vagina, there can be some tissue but there is still a  hole.

So if it hurts he is doing it wrong, sex is nice if done right.

I think you need to find some medical sites about  humans breeding and what it is all about.

I dont think its going to hurt in the way that you might be thinking of. Yes, it is a bit of a strange feeling, but this is what your body is made for so it will get used to the sensation pretty quickly. You don't need to numb yourself because you won't feel the pleasure. The key factors here are patience, lots of foreplay, and having lube handy just in case your hubby to be is quite endowed!

Your muscles will be sore the next day because sex is akin to working out, but you shouldnt be in such pain that would prevent you from enjoying your honeymoon activities :)

You will find  muscles in your thighs that you didnt know you had....

Yes, numbing is stupid cause then you cant feel if he is doing wrong and you cant have an orgasm, which is the pleasure bit of having sex.

Should say the first time is seldom great or actually happingen.... you can have a few gigglefits, cramps and well  limpness from his side.

When DH and I had sex for the first time it did hurt the first time. But I was nervouse and we didnt do much foreplay just kissing. I did have pain that day after having sex but by the next day it felt better. We waited about 2 days and next time it was good. So the foreplay might work and lube but not numbing.

Like first time ever? I think I waited like a week to do it again, not because of pain just because of the lack of opportunity. I'm pretty sure I would've been fine going again right after. Is kind of like when you first start working out: you may be sore, but it's best to "work through it".

It didn't hurt until like the 10th time we did it. That was when my hymen tore finally. BUT I loved the pain :) But I am a little bit of a masochist 

The bad thing that happened was the first time my hymen tore a little bit (not all the way) and then it became infected so sex for the next 2 months was really painful, but again I liked it painful. 

It really didn't hurt for me at all.  It felt strange but we made sure to take it slow.  As long as you're not trying to force anything and are paying attention to how your body feels you should be able to get away without too much pain.  It's possible that your hymen has already torn even without having had sex.  So yeah, take it slow, have lube available, get nice and warmed up with foreplay first.  

I was just a little sore the next day, but it was nothing bad at all.

Alright.  I'm going to lay this out straight and I'm sorry if it's TMI.  

Firstly, I HAD foreplay.  Plenty of it.  EVERYTHING in my body was ready to go for it.  So don't give me crap about "you must not have been excited enough etc." because that simply wasn't the case.

IT HURT LIKE HELL.  I think I FELT that fucker rip apart- if I'd known it was going to hurt like that I probably wouldn't have been able to make myself go through with it.  It was like I was being stabbed.  He came pretty fast and that was a damn good thing because I was ready to have him out of there like immediately.  

Oh yeah, and the bleeding.  I bled like I was on the rag for three days- I had to wear a pad and everything (tampons were kind of out of the question at that time).  I saved myself for my fiance and our mattress still has a giant stain because even bleach can't get it out.  I literally found scraps of tissue around my hole that had to be cleared away.

The next month was an emotional nightmare.  Every time we'd try again, I would start to lose it because it hurt so much the first time and the memories would come back, which of course made it hurt the next several times.  Hell the first 2-3 times we tried after the initial encounter I tightened up so much out of fear that he couldn't even get it in.  We both wondered what in hell was wrong with us.   I was freaking out thinking he was going to leave me if we couldn't make this work, that I'd never be able to have babies, I was looking into getting these ring expander things that supposedly help train your vagina, you name it.  It was a total meltdown.

We did work through it, slowly and with a lot of one step forward two steps back, and sex is a happy fun time now.  But there is no way in hell you could have paid me to save myself for my wedding night in hindsight, which had been my original plan- some sixth sense told me not to and I am SO glad I listened to it.  Our wedding night would have been destroyed.  Our honeymoon would have been ruined.  

Obviously, my experience is an extreme and hopefully rare example, but every word of this story is true and the crazy shit you hear on the internet about losing one's virginity isn't 100% wrong.