Have you seen this site?

Stepford Wives

At first I thought it was a joke, but the more I looked around on the site the more I think there are people who really do believe in this!

Check it out...you will be amazed often by so many things they write about how to be the perfect wife!

Here are some of the most ridiculous "rules" on the site for wives to follow

Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility.

Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

We are meant to be seen, not heard!

You have no right to question him.

AHAHAHAHAHAHA.... that just makes me laugh... I need to check out this site.

ya know the weird thing is that SOME of the advice onthe site I actually agree with and follow myself day to day in my marriage.....but then they go and ruin it with that kind of over the top sexist crap...it blows my mind that there are men and women who believe in that kind of inequality, as if women are pets

I mean I probably agree with some of it as well... but the things you posted are freaking nuts!!!

Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility. AHAHAHAHAHA...

Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. GET REAL

You have no right to question him. Thats REALLY funny... so I guess he can just do whatever he wants with whoever he wants whenever HE wants... I DONT think so...

I mean he is not God... he is a husband and normally that requires a partnership!!! LOL

Some of that is really funny.  It's like The Rules for married woman.

The ladies at work read this stuff to me as a joke at my wedding shower!

Oh my.

Wow.

Yeah.  . .you know I totally believe in somewhat traditional and conservative roles for the husband and wife, I love taking care of our home and cooking and making sure I always look nice for DH, I'm even looking forward to being a SAHM (I'll still do some work from home though) but this is taking it a bit too far.  

You start reading, and it sounds good. . .and then, WHAMO. . .craziness.  

supports the idea of the homemaking wife who is not only the cheery domestic goddess (yes), but a fantastic dresser (I try to be), neat as a pin (ok), a lady with good manners (always!), and a gracious (yes), well-behaved, obedient wife who always puts her man first. (WTF?)

believes that we should strive and spend all our free time to look pretty (sounds like fun!), since women at Stepford are meant to be seen, not heard.(again, WTF?)

DH and I are a TEAM.  We work together: I am not subservient to him, but we observe traditional roles because that works well for our respective careers.  He's out working 10 hour shifts making 4x more money than I do, while I get to stay at home and simply teach a few lessons each afternoon.  It works for us, but yeah, um, I'm not going to be 'seen and not heard'.  UGH.  

I think there is a LOT to be said for women being able to keep themselves and their home together (how many women do you know totally 'let themselves go' after the wedding because they 'got the guy'?) but it shouldn't be like 'I Love Lucy'.  Wow.  

I totally agree mountainbride! Reading lot of it I would be totally agreeing until that last sentence that was just insane! I do take a few minutes before he comes home to freshen myself up, and I do try to greet him with a smile and not bombard him with negative crap the moment he walks in the door, and I do keep the house extra clean because I know he loves that. (and the only reason I'm doing the cleaning is that he works a LOT more than I do, if that was reversed I'd expect him to do the cleaning) But I in no way think I count any less or shouldn't have any opinions! I mean it it tells you not to ever read!

I don't even think that some of the advice is sexist, I think both partners should try to look their best for each other and do little things to make the other one feel special, just like we did when we were first dating. But this site has to give all of that a bad name by making it totally one-sided and outright saying that women should be second class citizens in their own homes and marriage. Totally nuts!

and I totally agree with you mountainbride about people who "let it go" now that they're married...men are just as guilty as women with this! We both try really hard to not let that happen and continue to "woo" each other

I couldn't agree with this more Odessa:

I think both partners should try to look their best for each other and do little things to make the other one feel special, just like we did when we were first dating

It's so true that things like this website do give that a bad name.  If I think about all the really successful marriages I know, both parties involved make that extra effort to be sweet and treat each other like they were dating.  The people I know who are miserable have become complacent and no longer enjoy each other - it seems like work and effort to be together.

I'm a strong believer in 'even if I don't feel like it' making that effort to pick up the house and greet DH with a kiss when he comes home.  That doesn't make me feel subservient or secondary. . .it makes me feel special because you know what?  He turns right back around and offers to fend of sharks and walk the dog and give me back rubs and make me feel really loved.   If I didn't greet him like that I know for a fact it would be different: treat others how you want to be treated. 

The girls let themselves go, and/or the guys do. . .you're right!  It's very sad to see, especially if children are involved because then what are you teaching them about how to treat others and how to be an adult and how to be married?  No wonder we have a divorce problem in this country.