How to Include Kids in Ceremony?

i'm trying to figure out how to include fh's son in our ceremony and am thinking about the 3 of us doing the sand ceremony...

is this too cheeseball???

last year when fh's ex-wife remarried, their son rec'd the "family medallion" during their ceremony... so i dont want to do that - but still want to do something symbolic...

please throw any other suggestions in the hat!!!! =)


p.s. i'm terrified and excited to be a "step-mom"

I think the sand ceremony is cute! we were thinkin about doing it too! AND u have a keepsake after!

ok stupid question--- should we ask him if he wants to or just tell him we are having a sand ceremony... i dont want to discount his feelings - and i def dont want him to think i'm tryin to be his mama... i mean i hope he knows i want to be another adult figure he can lean on - not necessarily take the place of his mom...

May be a stupid question but what is a sand ceremony?? I am looking to include my nieces somehow who are 9 and 10 by then and dont want them to be Junior B/M's for a few reasons, so I am trying to do things with them too, like maybe a private photo session with them for like 15 minutes before the wedding..Its so hard to try to include everyone you want to right?? How old is he?

my (future) stepson will be 10 by next august...

he is also a gm...

not a stupid question - i didnt know what the sand ceremony was either until miss mandy told me...

http://www.marryu.com/sand-ceremony.htm


a private photo session would be awesome!! they'd feel like such superstars i'm sure!!

Oh yeah that cool, never seen that before. So he is a gm that is good right?

he is a little shy at first, so no matter how the other gms and bms "match up" according to height or whatever - we're going to have him walk with fh's sister - so at least he'll be comfortable...

I think you should ask him. My FI's daughter will be 11 by the time of the ceremony and because I wanted to make sure she felt included, I asked her if she would like to read a poem. She said she didn't want to! Ha ha!

P.S. Don't be terrified of being a step-mom, if anything, you already are! I don't know what the living arrangement is for you guys, but we have my FI's daughter 50% of the time and even when we don't, and she has activities, were there. I am very much involved in her life and know that I am already her step-mom in every aspect of the title even though her father and I aren't married yet. So, I bet you could already consider yourself one too ;)

I think only you and FI should do the sand ceremony. Since he is already a gm, maybe you can have him do a reading at the church. My step son is 8 years old and I've been debating the same. He's not a gm, since he and my 3 year old will be the only kids at the wedding and there aren't any little girls in my family that I wanted in my wedding party. haha. So he is either going to be a second ring bearer and walk w/my son (who won't dare let him touch the pillow) or have him carry a "Here comes the bride" scroll.

the more i think aobut it - i think fh should ask his son what he's comfortable doing - his son is kinda shy at first, so i doubt he will want to do a reading, he's a pretty laid back and mellow kid and doesnt like too much attention...  well, it's over a year away - so maybe it'll just work it self out before then... but you know me - i'm spazzy and just want to know how everything is going to be... ;)