Oh boy, first I would like to apologize in advance if this upsets any of you, but I have been carrying this on my shoulders since October 4th and I am becoming more physically sick and emotionally sick as the days go on and DH and I have been arguing about this, so again, I apologize if this upsets anyone, but I need to vent somewhere.

Alot of you know that my father was hospitalized down in Florida before my wedding and then discharged the day he and my stepmonster flew up here for our wedding. Well, the evening that they flew in, I had a feeling that something was not right with him and he refused to allow me to take him to our hospital here locally.  Since they got here, stepmonster was being a raging BIATCH starting fights with him, talking trash about him to me (such as she could not believe that he was refusing to get a job down in Florida where they are now living with her daughter), just gossiping up a storm and talking/treating him like garbage.  Friday evening, my MOH arrived on a bus, so DH went to pick her up, came back home and we ate a quick dinner before running down to Philly to pick up my cousin.

Well, when we got back home at almost 1:30 a.m., I walk into our bedroom to see my father sitting on the edge of my bed looking gray and horrible, and he looked at DH and I, and asked if he could go to the hospital.  DH jumped into action, getting things organized, telling me that MOH, cousin, and I would stay here since there was really nothing we could all do at the hospital, and then my stepmonster had the _____ to say "Well, I better get dressed then"  WHAT, are you on drugs or something?  I would have already been dressed and waiting out in the living room for us to get back home. 

DH took my father and the stepmonster to the hospital, was willing to wait until he was admitted and into a room, but a few hours after they got there, he was leaning up against a wall in the waiting room when stepmonster comes out of the ER room where father was being cared for and told DH that he could go home.  DH asked her over 5 times if she was sure and that he would feel much better if he stayed, but she insisted that he come home.  Not even one hour after he arrived back home, stepmonster starts calling my cell phone just to say "Nothing new, he's still in the ER" blah, blah, blah.  She did this three times every 45 minutes with the same statement. 

Fast forward to like 9 a.m. when none of us could sleep anymore; one, because I couldn't take the phone ringing anymore and two, because we still had a lot of stuff to finish up before the wedding.

DH spoke to this witch at least 5 times after 9 a.m. and EACH and every time he spoke to her, he asked her if she needed anything, if he needed to bring her food, medicine, clothes, pick her up so she could come back here for a shower, etc.

Saturday, while DH is dealing with the devil reincarnated, MOH, cousin, and I had to go and get our nails done, pack cars, go to the venue to get hotel room keys, and make food that we were bringing with us Sunday morning. 

DH did advise stepmonster that we would not be available to her on Sunday, as we were getting married and Monday at 6 a.m. we needed to be up to take MOH to bus station and cousin to airport leaving our house at 2 p.m. 

Each and every time he spoke to this witch, she said, "I'M FINE. No, I don't need anything" which would turn out to be the biggest lie I have ever heard.  Sunday night my cousin posted something on FB saying that the wedding was beautiful and that it was sad that I didn't have a lot of my family there.  Sister chimes in on this comment with: "I know...we wish could have been there too.  However, Becky has done some VERY CRUEL things to me that I'm sure you don't know about so I couldn't justify to myself spending close to $2,000 for her second wedding.  Regards to my dad...I know he didn't plan on having a massive blood clot on his lung....and while he lay fighting for his life....she couldn't find the time to stop in and visit him...or see if Pat (stepmonster) needed anything."  WTF?????  I blew up on Tuesday when I saw this, but I'm getting ahead of myself. 

Monday, after DH dropped off MOH to bus station, he came back to get some sleep as a few of us went into NYC for an after party (as my cousin had never been to a club). I got up and started helping my cousin pack and at 1 p.m. I woke him up so we could pack her stuff into the car, get some lunch, and drive her back down to Philly. At about 2 p.m., stepmonster starts calling asking if we can go and pick her up because "she's exhausted, hasn't sleep, is hungry, needs a shower, and needs her medicine and some clothes"  She didn't, however, even worry that cousin needed to be down in Philly at 4 p.m. to get her plane.  It's kinda funny because if everything would have been normal, she and father would have been in the same car going to the airport because they were scheduled to fly out one hour before cousin.  That woman called my cell phone every 15 minutes for an hour until I had to shut it off because I was in tears.

We got stuck in traffic going down to Philly and cousin JUST caught her plane, we hit traffic coming back up to home, had to drop off tuxes (one of which was father's, which of course I ended up paying for because they lie and say they have no money to us, but travel all over), and then, oh yes, it's 6 something p.m. and neither DH nor I have eaten all day. We did all this, DH calls the stepmonster to advise her that he is on the way to get her.  I didn't speak to her at all when she got back here and the following day, I was on the phone with the hospital trying to get some information.  I had to work on Tuesday and was planning on going to the hospital after 5 p.m. when my doctors are done dictating for a few hours.  Apparently that was not good enough for her, she paced back and forth (I know she was worried as were we) and she asked DH at least 10 times if I was done with work.  I got up out of my chair, asked DH to get the doctor's name so that I could speak to him personally and that is when all hell broke lose.  She asked why I needed to know the name of the doctor, that she was in charge and I had no right to ask so many questions.  I couldn't take it anymore.  Something inside of me snapped, and I went off on her.  I told her that she was a BI___, she was trying to kill father, and that she needed to work if she was so stressed about money.  She looked at me dead straight in the eyes and said "I'm not going to work" UHHHH, i just about fell off my chair.  I told her that since she dragged father down to Florida so that she could be with her daughter that father's health was deteriorating fast and that he needed to be back in Buffalo where he was soaring.  Well, she started saying some mean and nasty things about me not caring and why we didn't go up to the hospital and she needed things on Saturday, and I just started screaming.  I told DH to get her out of my house and I have not spoken to stepmonster, father, or sister since last Tuesday. 

I cannot believe that stepmonster lies, and has done so since day 1 of being with father, and everyone believes her.  I even have proof that DH called her numerous times on Saturday about seeing if she needed anything. I also found out that she truly expected me to cancel our wedding, of which she paid nothing for, and for us to lose over 15,000. 

Last week, I was acting like everything was fine here on the boards, but literally I was hoping that I would go to sleep and not wake up, I said to my other family that I wish that I had passed away instead of my mother, and that I was actually trying to figure out how much of whatever vitamins, pills, etc I would have to take to end this, to get away from this emotional torture and abuse I have suffered from these people for so many years.  I have decided in order to save myself, I must cut all ties from these people because they do nothing but put me down, attack me, and genuinely wish nothing good for me, but if they want or need something, they are right in my face kissing a$$. 

Please keep me in your prayers that I can stay strong through this because I don't want to hurt myself in any way, shape or form, but these people and the abuse that I have suffered had just taken me to a low place that I never want to feel again.

Oh sweetie...*HUGS*

I'm so so so so so SO sorry that you had to go through this roller coaster these last few days/weeks.

I will most definitely keep you in my prayers.

Know that with time you will heal. Just try to take time for yourself, your husband and the people that matter to you.

Ignore your step monster. She is nothing. She is no one.

Your dad, husband and your actual loved ones are the only ones that matter.

PM me if you want to chat or just need someone to listen to you.

awwwww becca, honey! you are in my thoughts and prayers!!! you are a wonderful person and you have no idea how many people's lives you have touched in a positive way, including my own! hugggggggggsssssss

also dittoing kaytana---pm me if you need anything at all! or just someone to vent to!!!

the problem is that I have to completely cut my father out of my life as well as my sister, especially with the bs that sister caused earlier in the year with being original MOH. 

I just feel horrible that it has had to come to this and since last Tuesday, I am trying so hard to pull it together and work since if I am not typing on my computer, I am not making any money, and each and every day, I end up sitting here crying and then feeling rage. 

Thank you so much girls for your kind words and you will never know how much this means to me to feel like I have a safe place to share all this.

aw becca! just take your anger out on the keyboard lol : ) 

You have to look out for yourself first and foremost. That may sound selfish - but you're not doing yourself any good by keeping toxic people close to you.

Hopefully your relationship with your sister and father improve in time....but right now..you need to focus on you.

*hugs*

*hugs*  I'm so sorry to hear what you have been and are going through.  Ditto on what Kaytana said!

i also believe in taking care of yourself first... don't worry about being selfish for now!

)= ((Hugs)) 

You don't deserve any of this! I'm glad you are making the choice to put yourself first and prevent further negativity and anxiety. Keeping you and your DH in my thoughts

PM me if you need to let more out.