for about 85 guest where we can bring own food and beer and wine and dj for the wedding and the rec.

Where are you located? Is Temecula too far for you? You can always talk to your city about a park, if that works, but our chapel in Temecula is 575, I believe.

You might want to check out the court and parks. That will be your best bet

Check this place out.  http://www.sandiegowedding.org/gallery.html

My mom had her wedding there right before the Dulzura Fires.  The lasst I heard, part of the venue was hit hard by the fires.  It's been a few years now and they may be up and running again. 

All your monies go to charity.  It's a beautiful garden setting.  There used to be an old house were you would get ready but that is the area that was effected.

Call them!  See if they're up and running again.  It really is the most beautiful location for that kind of budget... and it is a charitable cause as well.   

I wish I had more pictures to show you.

I believe you have to bring in your own vendors (they may provide vendors they work with frequently but I'm not sure).  THIS IS GOOD!!!  It leaves room for budgeting. 

Hope this helps ;)