if you could do it over...

if you could plan your wedding over again... would you do it differently?

my answer? yes! there are a lot of things i would have done differently. in the end though, it's all about commiting yourself to someone you love. =)

two things i'd do differently... let our parents invite so many people and i should have hired a DOC.

Oh boy, if only I could do it over knowing what I know now. That's ok, I'll apply my knowledge for our 10 year wedding renewal! Hee hee hee =D.

Well, I think the one thing I would have done differently is spend more on my photographer. A good photographer is just so valuable because not only are their best pictures better, but you will have so many more good pictures to choose from as well. It's the primary way you will remember your wedding so it is one area you should not skimp on. Our photos turned out ok, but I feel like they could have been so much better and our memories would have been that much better.

kellyk, did you mean *NOT* let your parents invite so many people?

I agree with MrsJim that photography is very important. I really loved my photographer (reviewed in my bio).

if I did it over again, I think I'd talk to everyone during the cocktail hour which would give me time to eat some of the food at my wedding!

I haven't had my wedding yet, but of course I would have done things differently now that I know more about weddings! First, I probably would have thought about the overall style of the wedding before looking for a venue. We chose the Rincon Center because of the price and capacity, which are two very important factors, but the reception space is kind of cold and has tons of restrictions with decor (only certain colors will go with the decor, you can't have candles, you can only have small centerpieces).

Also, I would have stuck to my dress budget!! I totally blew my budget on that one and now I have to skimp on other things.

Invite less people. If you're on the fence about whether or not to invite them, then don't. Those will be the people who are flaky about their RSVPs, or will RSVP and not show. Definitely not worth the extra stress. Keep it to the people that matter.

I'm just starting to plan and everything is so expensive I feel like I should just elope!

i only regret two things about my wedding. one was that as friendships changed over my engagement, i wish i'd made a different bridesmaid choice and i ended up hurting a friends feelings. second, i would have spent less time trying to keep my divorced parents apart - in doing so, i ended up not getting any posed photos with my dad, which i deeply regret.

also, if we were doing it over again, i know my husband would be a heck of a lot more helpful! he was scared of wedding planning back then - and now that i'm a coordinator and he's a DJ, he's got it down!

I would have put my foot down and not compromise so much with people other than my FI.

I would have had a reception rehearsal as well as a ceremony one. It would have been tough to squeeze it in but we should have. Mostly because we created our own CDs and had my bros run the music. I would have made sure we had a room for my husb and GM to change in at the hotel my BM and I did. Lastly, I would left more of a cushion with photography (probably paying for one more hr).