if you could do it over...

i love this post, and thank you for your honesty brides. i know it can be hard for people to admit that anything wasn't "perfect".

even though i haven't gone through a wedding here are things i've picked up from those i've been too.

-if your wedding is sunday night, people will leave early, really early, like 8. so have it earlier or spring for saturday night.

-don't put the cupcakes out with the buffet, people will eat them with dinner and you'll have no desert drama.

-this is for me personally, limit mother's responsibility. she freaked out at my sister's wedding so for mine, she'll just have to show up.

-this is personal too, but if you have young cousins coming, tell the dj ahead of time not to take more than 1 or 2 requests from them. at my sister's the cousin's pirated her playlist and cleared the dancefloor.

i love the "i spent too much on the dress" comments, i feel like that part of planning is so early and you get wrapped up in like "the perfect dress" so you end up shelling out so much money for a designer dress, if i would have known how many little hidden costs were awaiting me i would have trimmed my dress budget.

what i've always subscribed to is "it's JUST one day"  yes it's my wedding day - but inevitably, something will go astray--- someone's meal will be too cold, someone's too hot, there will be a wobbly chair somewhere, someone's baby will cry during the ceremony, i may not get to weighing 105 like i want, fh will be late, i will be late, my father may not show up... the list goes on and on - but what will make the day be perfect---> i'm starting a journey with my best friend and the man i choose to be my hubbs - and what's better than that???

i try not to get sucked into thinking i MUST have certain elements and having a lot of "stuff" at the wedding and not freak out over color combos, matching everything and other people's thoughts...

and i should add that my "non-chalant" 'tude doesnt alwasy sit well with others... people feel like i shuold care more - but it's not that i dont care - but there are other things more important than this one day or the aesthetics of this one day...  i do care - i just care more about my actual marriage than my wedding...

The way I originally wanted it:
Me, FI, parents, some close family, some close friends, in a beautiful spot on a beautiful day in Yosemite.
Tasty little cake & champagne.

Later:
Great big fun BBQ back home.

**sigh**


If only....