is anyone sitting with their parents at the head table

im considering it, but dont know the pro's and cons/...

its either with parents or by our selves

iklein - we're sitting with our parents and our maid of honor and best man - thought it'd be nice to have some company at the table where EVERYONE IS LOOKING! :)

with all the parents..big 14 person bridal party table.

hmm i havent thought about it. i originially thought at a sweetheart table but now i'm thinking we should sit with our parents and siblings since his parents dont know many peeps and may feel awkward? hmm...

NO head table. Parents haven't talked to eachother in 20 years lol. Just a sweetheart table

I am truly torn right now with the Kings table thing- it can sit 18-22 ppl

Were either going to do bridal party and their sig others (which Im not too excited about)

OR

Our parents, grandparents, and siblings (which is 'some' of our bridal party, minus the friends)

I can't make up my mind, I guess Im stuck on who I want to be sourrounded by, those who truly care or those that have to be there....? My FI thinks the BP b/c its the 'right' thing to do..

- HMM :)

Originally, we were going to include our parents and entire bridal party in the head table but nixed the idea. We're just going to create a sweetheart table for FI and I. Reason being, we want our party to sit with their SO (significant others) and our parents to sit with their friends/families. Besides, both are very sociable.

We didn't really have a head table. The table that was at the front is where DH and I sat with our parents. The wedding party sat at different tables with their spouses or families

Pros of sitting at a sweetheart table: You get a little bit of time with just the two of you... even if most of the guests are looking your direction. It can provide more opportunities for cute photos. Plus, if you have your own table, I would assume that you might get a chance to eat. It's just a guess though.

Cons of sitting at a sweetheart table: Your little table is the center of attention. Ideally, people will be focused on their own table when the food is out, but ultimately, you guys will be the focal point. I'm guessing this will prompt guests to clink on the glasses more to get you guys to kiss. (an annoying tradition that I really dislike, but that's just me)

Pros of sitting with parents: I think it's all good. Kind of self explainatory, you'll be with your parents.

Cons of sitting with parents: I don't know if this is a legit con, it's just what happened to us. We sat with our parents and because of it, we had more people (our parents' friends) come up and congratulate us and want a photo, interrupting us while we desperately tried to eat. Maybe they felt more comfortable doing it because our parents were there too. I know it's kind of expected for the bride and groom to not get anything to eat and to spend the evening trying to greet everyone. I don't want to sound ungrateful, but we had time scheduled for mingling and toasting all of the tables. I honestly wished we'd had a sweetheart table, so we could have had a moment to ourselves to enjoy the food that we spent a lot of time deciding on.

HMM: Question to ask your FI: Think about your BP, will any of them be bringing a spouse or sig other who won't know anyone at the wedding? Wouldn't it be nice if that guest could sit with their spouse or sig other? This is the question I asked my FI when he wanted a traditional head table. And it's why we nixed the idea. If you're BP doesn't have this issue, then it's up to you on who you want to sit with. ;-)

Oi, this got all wordy. Sorry!

Good luck!

I was originally going to have a head table with just the bridal party but then sig others would be sitting alone at tables with strangers so I thought it would make our bridal party happier to sit with their dates and we're just going to have a sweetheart table.

I think that is a neat idea, but no we are not doing that.  We are having the bridal party at our head table and then having a table with FI's parents, FI's daughter, my mom, etc.