I wanted to do the same thing, but I realized I was being selfish. Why get married if you are not willing to become his family. And his last name is HAMBERGER! We discussed it and I know if I didnt change it, it would be an issue forever.
Is his discomfort really worth keeping your name? For me it wasnt, he is sacrificing for me and I need to for him. But everyone is different.
I had SUCH a hard time with this decision. I really wanted to keep my last name and frankly I find it a little bit sexist that the women always take the man's name. I told my fiance if he wants us to have the same last name why
doesn't he take mine? He's pretty traditional so the compromise we came up with is that I would take my maiden name for my middle name and so would he, and so would our children. That way we will all be first name___ my maiden name____ his
last name___. This really helped me feel like I wasn't loosing my heritage.
Thats a good compromise! My last name is long and french and I don't have any attachment to it because my dad was adopted and his adopted dad died when he was very young but I was extremely close to his REAL grandparents (who also had a terrible
last name) but I can see where you would want to keep it because to you it means family.