you ladies are hilarious!
Ok, so besides booze, I have another mental trick to aid with BJs. The guy I lost my virginity to, and who has helped me discover a lot more about my sexual self, told me this once - "you don't gag when you eat food because you know it's
supposed to go down your throat. So don't think of me as being as a strange object."
I know this may seem a little out there, but if you just keep breathing through your nose and relax and enjoy what your doing to your man, it really does help with the gag reflex.
And also, don't push it more than you have to. It's a small space, his tip is sensitive, so he's going to get a kick out of it even if you don't get the whole thing in!
That's my story and I'm sticking to it ;)