MOH just up and quit.

This is a very delicate situation. It sounds like you are angry, hurt and miss your friend! You have every right to feel this way, especially since the two of you had a very enjoyable conversation. Sounds like she does not like confrontation which is why she text you the next day instead of telling you when you guys were talking. I agree with Julie. Something may be going on in her life that you are unaware of for her to behave in this manner. Let her still come to the engagement party and if I were you, I wouldn't ask for the 2k back. Also, better to find out this early than a couple of weeks from your big day! I know this is frustrating but stay focused on the bigger picture. You marrying the love of your life! And I totally agree with SDonisi - Time has a way of righting things!

This is an odd situation, obviously she isn't that great of a friend if a hunting trip planned this far in advance is more important than your big day. I say just let go of it and if she shows up she does, if not that's good too. It's your day and your marrying the man of your dreams! 

Wow! People are too much sometimes! I say write her off honey! Life is short and wedding planning is stressful! You should just move on without her. Its unfortunate that she cant seem to put as much love and friendship into your day as you did hers! But that goes to show you where you stand with her and for those reasons I would just move on!

:/  GOOD GRIEF.  Sorry to hear this happened to you, truly.

I'm going to try and spin it for you though.  Yes, it sucks that your MOH couldn't step up to the plate and keep her promise to be your MOH, which by the way, as we all know is an absolute HONOUR.  That being said, rejoice that she told you with 360 days left before your wedding.  That's a lot of time to figure out the MOH situation, if anything needs to be figured out.  It's better for her to step down now as opposed to a) leaving it to very last minute to step down or b) staying and doing a slack-off job as your MOH, which is worse than having her step down.

Consider this a blessing.  Hopefully, your friendship with her will triumph somewhere down the line, but for your wedding, you need to be surrounded by people who truly love and support you.  ;)  Just my humble opinion...

I am SO SO Sorry you have to deal with immaturity!!! I agree with the other ladies that it's probably best just to cut ties quietly and be better off without her! :(

Thanks for the support guys. The situation has pretty much only gotten worse even though I have kept my mouth shut, my family are the first to jump in and defend me. I'm trying to get over the fact that she won't even be in my wedding party but at the end of the day she's some of the only family I have left so deep down I can't stand to stay mad at her. As dumb and inconsiderate as this move was on her part I'm not going to let it ruin 26 years of friendship... I guess I have to meet with her and talk things out. In the mean time, she can go F. right off and I"m going to focus on school and work, and planning my awesome wedding which will still be awesome with out her and even better than hers was (hands down lol). Thank you again for the advice everyone <3