I was just wondering if you were getting new rings? engraving your old rings?  Will you have a card box? I'm not expecting gifts, so I don't know what to do- I know some people will probably bring cards, but I don't want to have a box and make people think that they were supposed to.. And favors.. Are you guys doing those? I was going to but now I don't know.. I think I have everything else settled tho.. oh I know.. when were you going to send the invites? Thanks!

1. Getting new rings

2. No card box. We did not registar for gifts

3. We are doing favors

4. Sending out STD's 6 months in advance and the invites 6 weeks before event

1. New rings -totally up to you

2. No card box and no presents!

3. Favors yes but depends on how big your ceremony is

4. Invites 8 weeks for safety, esp. if not local

Good.. thanks.. I feel better.. I just don't want to do anything etiquettely wrong.. and where I've never been to one or known anyone that's ever been to a renewal I have no idea.. and some of the things you find online I'm ignoring, like we are having bridesmaids and best men.. and it says not to.. I think I really should take chic's advice and not worry! But I just can't help it.. I stay at home so I'm constantly jumping on and off the computer when I get ideas and I keep recalculating our budget because I really don't think spending a lot for one day is worth it.. I think getting good deals and making it look like I spent a lot would be the best thing ever..  *sigh* I should have just gotten that mommy makeover..

I did get a new diamond ring and wedding band but we have been married 10 years.  Back then I bought a gold set and I don't wear gold anymore.  If you have a ring now you could always buy a new one and stack them together.  I really love that look.

No cards or gifts.  We have everything we need.  We just want to celebrate.

Yes, to favors.  Most likely in the form of food...like a midnight snack or something in a box.  Nothing fancy.

Since we are doing it "destination" style, we let our guests know 1 year out. 

Nikki...You are worrying about being proper way too much. This is a vow renewal. You are reaffirming your love for each other. Do what YOU want. There are no rules when it comes to these things. Go hog wild if you want.

Look, both of our families think a vow renewal is stupid and a waste of money. I have had other brides tell me basically that it is a waste of time. I don't care. It's OUR day and we will have it and have it the way WE want it.

What ever you both want, just do it. Don't try and abide by some rule you think there is.

Just have fun. :0)

We are celebrating our 5th "legal" anniversary with a Church wedding... so by religion it is a new beginning and though the first meant a lot between us, nobody was there - we eloped... so I am addressing mine as a wedding period - for the most part.

1.  New rings... he will get one for sure, he lost his skipping rocks with the kids... me, probably not.
2.  CardBox, I want to do one DIY - just to do it... I do want cards but not for the money, more the sentiment... IDEA: maybe a card box with a customized notepad and pen - leave a word of encouragement for the bride/groom.
3.  Favors... yes, but I am attempting to make them useful... with the exception of my fortune cookie ones, but fit the elements nad are too darn cute... I was thinking setting up a sations with several kinds and letting people pick 2 - then everyone is sure to get somethin they like.
4.  I'll send STD 6 months prior and invites 3 months prior... early I know, but I'm will stress out if I dont have a final head count 1 month ahead.

Good Luck :)

We have been married 22 years and will be doing a renewal this year.  We bought new rings a few years ago so won't go to that expense again.  The first marriage was one that my parents planned so this one will more reflect who we are as a couple.

No bridal party, but more of just a simple exchange of vows and then a party with family and friends.  No cards or gifts.  Yes to favors but will be something edible with a card stating a donation has been made to our local Red Cross as we are D.A.T. volunteers with this organization.

Invites will go out 3 weeks before as we are pretty low key people and don't want a fuss.  If people can come that is great.  If not, not a problem.