because I am falling out of love with house #1. This house just scared the crap out of me. The first loan didn't go through. Then proceeded with a second loan which is harder to process. Then right before going to underwriting, it was put back on the market. We WON the bidding war, now just getting our offer approved by bank....

okay, here's my stink...

Even if the bank approves my resubmission... I don't think I'll ever feel the same way. I will be scared sh*tless while processing the loan because of all the heartache I've experienced thus far. I would really hate to go into a home being bitter or not fully happy and grateful about it.

House #2 seems to be a lot more appealing. Easy loan, great family prior and it's MOVE IN READY! To be honest, I've been thinking waaay more this home than the headache home.

BOTH offers are in the bank ready to be approved. (One is ashort sell and one is a foreclosure) I'm secretly hoping house #2 approves first.

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ON A SIDE NOTE:

I just want to thank all of you wonderful ladies for your love, support and advice. I know I've been crowding up this board with all my crazy house adventures but nothing goes unnoticed.This journey of mine has really challenged my whole being as a "control freak" by learning how to let things go and happen the way it's suppose to happen. Learning how to weather the storm(s) and keep on pushing harder than before.

I say if you whole heartedly do not want house #1 then cancel and pull out.... I'm sure even if house #2 doesn't get approved you can find another home that is similar with less work and hassle....

Yesterday we lost our dream home and I am so heartbroken that I just can't shake it.... I know it was a long shot but still.

oh, I am so sorry Brit. I feel your pain. It totally sucks but you're right. Everything will work out and IT WILL work out for us!

((hugs)) The whole process can be a PITA and very tiring. You have to really think about it to see if you even want #1. If not, then I would withdraw the offer. It may not be the house that is causing that feeling though because it seems you are interested in it since going through the work twice now. Good luck and I hope things work out, whichever way that is!

I know what you are going through - I didn't have to deal with the drama as much as you but it is a crazy battle and I had the same thoughts with the new house. I even started finding faults with the new house after we lost it. Now it is ours again and we are under contract but they are telling us we may not qualify for the grants because we make too much money....and that was the whole reason we decided to go for this house in the first place.

Do you think you are only feeling this way because of all of the drama? Or are you not loving the actual house anymore?

I hope you get house #2!!!

Alison, I am definitely feeling this way because of all the drama... no doubt.

Kaytana: me too.

this is a HUGE investment you're getting into, so feeling 'eh' about it shouldn't be acceptable. you should love and and be excited about it.

at the same time, this is a HUGE investment you're getting into, so set your feelings and emotions aside and really look at each house and determine which is best for you and your family and your future.

kwim? GL

Thanks DMN, your absolutely right!

You know, you may just be experiencing buyer's remorse. I know that when I bought my first home, I hated it immediately after I signed to commit to buy and for the first 6 months or so because I had buyer's remorse. Then I grew to love it. Think about it, it is a HUGE financial commitment and you want every little detail to be perfect and because it never is, you have remorse. Just a thought. Google buyer's remorse and look into it to see if maybe that's what your feeling.

I went through buyer's remorse with my 2nd home purchase, only I experienced it only after I moved in. It didn't last near as long and my 2nd home is in way worse shape than my first.