Need to vent ... drunk uncle plus 2????

So I made a post a while back about inviting my drunk uncle to my wedding. For those that don't know, to make a long story short, my dad and my uncle just rekindled their friendship after a 10 year long family feud.  My uncle has been known to make racial remarks when he is drunk (which is always). My dad had a talk w/him and told him that if he acts up at my wedding, he will kindly be escorted out.  Well, the other day I was at my parent's house and my uncle was there w/a friend.  My uncle then started asking me questions about the wedding, like the date and location. When I told him where it was, his friend said that it was too far for him to drive and that he would need some other random Joe to drive them there b/c he can drive better drunk. WTH, I'm already overbooked at my venue, but am forcing myself to make room for my uncle and now his 1 seat has somehow turned into 3? I don't know his friends, but I know that they are always drunk just like him. So I told him that this was not some backyard wedding and I'm being charged per seat. My dad gave me the evil eye and I just had to leave at that point just so that I wouldn't disrespect my dad.

Well, apparently my dad talked to my aunt who lives in NY and told her the problem about my uncle wanting to bring 2 friends, so my aunt told my dad that since she wasn't coming to the wedding, that I could just give her 2 seats to my uncle's friends. WTF, where does she come off reassigning her seats to someone else. And I was already counting on her NOT coming anyways, so she actually didn't even have any seats! So now I'm the bitch and my aunt is calling my other aunts telling them that I'm being cheap b/c its ONLY 2 more seats. I'm just so irritated and needed to vent.

grrrrrrrrrr! i don't believe people sometimes. sorry chica! i would just maybe call him up and say sorry uncle but we are at max capacity. unfortunately, your friends can not be accomodated. good luck! stick to your guns with your dad. evil eye or not, he'll get over it!

I'm with WM. You need to be the strong one here. You can remindyour Dad that you were concerned about your uncle's behavior and that you think his friends are just the same and that controlling 3 people is more than anyone at the wedding needs to deal with. I would also remind him that the friends are all coming so they can drive eachother around drunk and that your party does not need that liability, nor does your venue. Tell him you would rather spend the money that you would spend on the two extra guests to book he and his friends a hotel that night and the friends can hang out there while the uncle is at the wedding.

Also, if your aunts are being awful (sounds like they are) I would call the leader (there always is one) and tell her that you know what is being said and that you are not cheap, you just don't want 2 people you don't know at the wedding and that you don't think the relationship your father and uncle have had over the years really puts your uncle in a position to assume he can invite whomever he wants to your wedding.

They are clearly taking advantage of your youth!

Pretend for a moment that you are them and treat them the same way...  Meaning tell your dad he can escort your uncle. There is only one place for your uncle and if he is not comfortable with that then he does not have to come. Make sure an have enough taxi money to have him escorted home at the end of the night and arrange for someone to take his car home at the end of the night ahead of time.

They will walk all over you until you say no. Its ok to say no, they would...

Chica, this got me all fired up! Want me to call them? I'll call'em all, the Uncle, the freidns, the aunties :-P

jharkins That is so cool. You have the best way with words. I hope Chica lets you~

oh no Chica... love the headline lol... i would say just let jharkins hit him up...lol  i think you should speak with your dad and explain to him the situation and how much it is really bugging you... My father had no idea how much we were paying per person and how much a wedding actually cost.  I let him know how much it was and he stopped telling me who to invite.  I think you need to show your dad how much it actually cost... im sure he will help you once he truely understands

Thanks ladies, you guys are hilarious.  I do feel alot better now.

April: Don't think I haven't thought about uninviting his a** and its not too late. :) Since they made up, he's been going to my parent's house almost everyday after work with his beer and his friend.  I think my dad is irritated by this and hinted to me yesterday that it would probably be best if he didn't come. As for my aunts, they can kiss my a**.

Jharkins: I might take you up on your offer, thanks girl!

MsValencia: My dad knows how much we are spending since he is contributing and he didn't have a problem not inviting his distant cousins and aunts, but for some reason, by aunts (his sisters) have brainwashed him into going all out for their brother. The way I see it, is that my uncle hasn't been a part of my life for over 10 years during their feud, so him not being there one more day, won't hurt me at all, this was really just for my dad, but he understands.

Is your dad paying for it?  If so...then I'd say it's his family, his problem...let him deal with the douschebag.

If you are paying...I would "accidentally" lose the invite.

Plus...do you really want to worry about his drinking and driving on a night you will be worrying about a zillion other things?

OMG that is really dumb. You aunt is making me mad because you are not being cheap. Weddings cost an arm and a leg. People really dont understand that. Are you paying for it or your parents? If it is you, I would be like "my money, my rules".