When did you announce the birth of your baby to your friends?  How long did you wait?

Did you invite your friends over to see the baby or did your friends just stop by?

FI called my mom when I was in the recovery suite, then called my dad & his parents (and sent an email to EVERYONE with a piccie attached) once I was in my room.
We only had immediate family visit for the first week, maybe even 10 days, and then invited people round once we were in a bit of a routine and settled

My family and friends knew when I was in labor thanks to my mom blabbing all over Facebook. My birth photographer posted some teaser photos of my LO hours after he was born too. We were lucky that friends and family always called before they visited to ask if it was a good time. 

After I gave birth I didn't want visitors, ESPECIALLY in the hospital. I was exhausted, sore and bleeding whenever I got out of bed. Plus nurses were checking on me every hour or so and the only people I was comfortable having there was DH, my mom, my MIL and my sister.

Once we got home, I still didn't want visitors. We were struggling with breastfeeding and I was topless most of the time. Any friends or family who wanted to visit, called first. And I requested they wait a week or so.  

In your DH's friend's defense, his wife may have requested that they have no visitors for a while. And it's possible that your DH's friend thought that delaying the announcement of his baby's birth would be the easiest way to avoid a barage of visitors. Some friends and family don't understand the desire to NOT have visitors. They figure since they are close to the mom or dad, the request for no visitors doesn't apply to them. Does that makes sense? His employer would obviously know that the baby was born because he wouldn't be attending work for a while. 

Also, if there were any complications in delivery or if they are having an especially rough time adjusting as new parents, they simply may not have had a chance to send an announcement to everyone. I would recommend to your DH to try his damnest to let it go and simply be happy for his friend. Give his friend a call and offer to bring over a hot dinner and meet the baby for a short visit. Don't stay longer than 20 or 30 min either. 

Every new parents' feelings about having visitors is different. 

Everyone knew the second he was born thanks to facebook... my DH was pretty pissed we didnt even get to announce it and people who were not even at the hospital plastered it all over their walls... lol

I see your point abatty.  They aren't on FB so nothing there.  By the time he called DH he was already back to work so I guess I just don't get why he didn't call to say they had the baby sooner.  My DH is pretty much his only friend.  Of course, we wouldn't have just come by...we've never been invited to their new house so really don't even know where they live.   That's another thing DH is a little upset over.   When my DH went to his work the employee that brought the subject up had already seen a picture of the baby and my DH knew nothing about the baby.  At this point it's been a month. 

However, my experience with friends/family having babies is that we all know right away so that's where I'm coming from and have never experienced a friend not telling me for week.  I understand everyone is different. ;) 

@ soon2bMRStip - This is why i'm starting to think that we won't be telling anyone other than our parents when I go into labor.

We didn't tell anyone either...unfortunately FIs sister is a midwife so one of her colleagues called her and told her how I was getting on and who was assigned to me etc. luckily she was good and didn't tell anyone else.

@ October - I don't understand why they didn't get in touch, a few days-a week maybe, but a month?? Strange.

My feelings would be hurt if my friend didn't tell me and it had been a month. I haven't had my LO yet but I'd like to think I'll be able to let everyone know within a month (if not FB, then a simple text)! My experience w/ announcements is the same as yours though; I've always known soon after!

Once I knew I was indeed in labor and not leaving the hospital without a baby, we told our family and close friends what was going on. One of my best friends and my MOH when I got married asked to come to the hospital the day I had the baby, which I was OK with. She was actually the first non-family member to meet him! Another friend asked to come the following day. I wasn't going to invite anyone to the hospital, but I wasn't opposed to having visitors. I kind of just let people ask me when they wanted to come see the baby and we scheduled a time. No one came by unannounced.

I would definitely be hurt if a good friend dind't tell me their baby had been born though!

I called my bff @ around 430 am right before my emergency csection and she and my other bff got to the hospital before ds was even delivered (7 am - had to wait for doc to get out of surgery). we called parents while I was in recovery - my parents live 3 hours away and didn't want them to rush down at that early hour. Every single one of our parents/siblings had been up to see us by 8 pm that day. I delivered 5 weeks early and ds was having some problems so he was in special care so we really wanted everyone to have a chance to see him. We are not very private people, so I think that has a lot to do with it. I totally understand where people would want privacy at that really special time. But a month is a seriously long time not to share with close friends.