NWR: need job advice

So my boss has been acting like a biaaaaaaaaaa ever since I got back from my wedding / honeymoon. I thought she was just stressed, but it just seems like its directed towards me only.  For example, on my first day back from my honeymoon, a bunch of my coworkers came to my desk and asked me how everything went and were all excited, she walks up and doesn't even say good morning and starts barking orders at me. I had lunch w/her former assistant (who still works for the company) and she told me that is why she transferred.  She said that she noticed that my boss would have an attitude only towards her and would give her extra work when she knew she was going on vacation, which of course needed to be done BEFORE she left. She did this to me also, right before my wedding and I thought I was just imagining things.

So here's the deal, I love the company and I promised myself I would just kill her w/kindness and keep doing my job until I was able to transfer to another department.  Well, they just posted an opening that I'm interested in. So I had a meeting w/HR and was told that if I apply for that position, I would have to let my boss know beforehand, b/c as soon as I apply online, a message will be sent to the hiring manager and my boss!!!!! My only concern is that my boss will know that I'm trying to transfer, regardless of if I get the position or not. Who cares if I get it, but what if I don't ... I feel like there will be more tension and she'll make my life more miserable. Now I'm scared to apply for the position.  How should I approach my boss w/out burning any bridges? And with the economy doing as bad as it it, I don't want to lose my job either.

TIA

ohhh dicey. She sounds really 2faced. Perhaps you can tell her somthing like you do value the job and the company but this opening is an area you have wanted to "explore" and you would like the opportunity to see if it is a good fit for both you and the company (it doesnt really need to be true but it sounds believable). It might go over better than if you tell her, "yah I dont want to work under you" Thats how I got my last boss off my back for transferring out. It went over ok, she was not a nice person anyway but seemed to understand.

HTH...

i tried this at my former company....and of course even though i asked that he not, and he said he wouldn't....the d*ck i interviewed with immediately told my boss...even though it's their "policy" not to notify the current manager until an offer is extended...which never happened, but it still sucked that he told my current manager....grrrrr....just be cautious....

I'd say go for the new job. You don't enjoy working with your current boss as it is now and if you stay in the position your in you will probably end up looking elsewhere anyway. Might as well go for this new position and give the company a chance to keep you. If your current boss doessomething to sabotage this opportunity for you then the company really needs to evaluate their manager/supervisors. You could mention it in your exit interview. Just my 2 cents. Good Luck! :)

~ Johanna

Depending on what the new job is and how different it is from where you are now, you can explain to her that you want to transfer to a job that is more along the lines of your career goals and will have more room for expansion. Or something like pinkyjane said, you saw the opening as an opportunity to explore beyond your current department. Properly worded BS can sound so eloquent sometimes... ;-)

I would continue killing her with kindness and good luck with the transfer.

I say do it. 

This is your life. Your life if happening right NOW:  Not next week, next month, or next year.  If there is something you really don't like about your life, then change it. The situation is probably not going to get any better, and no one else is going to change it for you.

I have to tell myself this all the time when I feel myself getting stuck in a rutt.

Go chica! I'm on ur team
Ur not putting ur job in jeoprady & they cnt let u go bc u want to move forward in ur career. Trust me I've underwitten ur company & I dnt think they'd like anymore suits from employees. Anyhoo, if u do go for it, tell her first & let her knw that ur interetestd in moving up & that u have an oppty & ur takin it. Then she can never act insulted that u were 'sneaking' around.
Go chica! I'm on the sidelines with my pompoms rooting for u!!!!!