Regarding having a baby shower for the parent's 2nd (or 3rd or 4th) child, in your circle, is this:

a) normal

b) tasteless

I think its normal... for every child.

Maybe people wont agree with me, but where I am from every child gets a shower.

I've heard both.

My sister is about to have her 2nd but she had her first child 7 years ago so I think in cases like that it is completely normal

I think its completly normal... you always need new baby stuff, even if you just had one. alot of it dosn't last.

Normal in my circle of friends. It started with our friend who had 1 girl, then got pregnant with a boy. So it was like, "OK, she has no boy stuff so we should have a shower for her" Then our other friend got pregnant with her 2nd girl, but since we had a 2nd shower for Friend #1, we couldn't not have one for Friend #2...

Baby showers are expensive!! lol But fun :)

I think it's completely normal!  In fact, I'm about to start planning the second shower for one of my best friends.  Why is a second or third baby any less special or celebratory than the first?  Especially if the second baby is not of the same gender.  If it is the same gender, then I think a smaller scaled shower is fine...and maybe celebrate the MOM instead of the baby.  I've heard of second showers where the mom doesn't register but the hosts ask the guests to bring diapers, wipes, etc...things that they will need for the second baby that they wouldn't already have.  Or bring gifts related to the mother...gift cards for massages, ways to pamper herself, etc.  One thing I'm thinking of doing for this shower I'm throwing is having the guests all sign up for days after the baby arrives to bring meals for the family...maybe for the two or so weeks after the baby comes.  That way they don't have to figure out what to eat.  And I think the shower will be less "baby themed" and instead, themed more toward the mother...and we may have it in the late afternoon, early evening with mocktails, etc.  Less baby-ish and more mommy-ish! :)

i think its getting to be more the "norm"....i definitely would not refer to it as "tasteless,"....a little harsh there....

beatie...that sounds awesome!!!

That is so interesting...

The reason i asked, that the first shower are to get the MOM ready for the baby...and most of the gifts are gliders, furniture, diaper bags, etc. and that the mom would be re-using the gifts she received for her second child.

It is common to do a "meet the baby" gathering after the baby is born (for whichever child) and guests might bring a stuffed toy or outfit specifically for the baby...

I was talking with a coworker and she was saying how she was kinda confused on  her SIL's shower - she is having her second child but had sold all the baby furniture from 3 years prior (just the crib/change table/glider) and now registered for new furniture at Pottery Barn...but my co-worker thought it was strange that she wouldn't just keep it? Instead of requesting that the same ppl who bought the furniture the first time around contribute to her second round?

I dunno...i thought it was a bit *ahem* bold but thought maybe ppl do it differently depending on where they are from..

Ummm...I think it's a personal or your "group" decision.

My friends did something called a "Sip and See" after the baby was born. It was a way for all the girls to get together (sip some champagne!), celebrate mom and baby, but she did not register for anything! Everyone got a little something for her, but it wasn't as high dollar as the first shower.

I think it's a little strange to get rid of all your old baby stuff if you are planning on having more.

We do low-key showers for the 2nd, 3rd babies...usually clothes.  In fact, last night my girlfriends suprised me with a "clothesline" of clothing for my triplets.