POLL: Who pays for the wedding?

Tradition is that the parents of the bride pay for the wedding, however in my situation my fiance and I decided to pay for it ourselves. We received little economic help from both families but we understood 100% since both of our families were going through some economic difficulties.

Who will be paying for your wedding or who paid for it?

We were in the same boat as you.

We were lucky to get a little help from both families, but payed for the majority ourselves.

We're splitting it.  

Mark and I paid for ours and we will pay for our vow renewals. I think this is good thing.

I told my daughter that when she gets married she will have to pay for hers and the same for the boys.

I did tell my daughter that I would help her with making decorations.

I think this makes them really think about who and why they are getting married.

IdoAgain20ye that's true! for my husband and I was some sort of training in finances lol It really helped us a lot and we learned to communicate "money"

We paid for it ourselves. I felt really good about doing it ourselves, we were both proud to be able to put our dream wedding together!

We are paying for it ourselves. It is my second marriage and my parents contributed to the first so I told them straight off that I wanted nothing from them, if FI's parents contributed their would be strings attached - certain people would have to be invited etc - and I'm not interested in that!!

We have started savings accounts for our boys that will pay for university and help with their weddings, but they will not be told about the wedding fund until after they are engaged. If they don't get married they can have it towards a deposit on a house if that happens first!

Thanks for bring this topic up monche! My FI and I were just
talking about this. It was so crazy how my parents made it clear that they
would not help financially as soon as the engagement occurred. I understand
& there are no hard feelings but there was not even any kind of planning
help offered or help with DIY like IdoAgain20ye plans on doing
with her daughter. My FI and I are saving for the wedding and I think that
shows a lot of discipline on our part. That's why our wedding is so far out. I don’t
need financial help as much as it would be nice to just have the excitement and
help with other things that go with the wedding & preparing for it....I
hope everyone is able to have the wedding they want no matter who pays for it
:)

SO true, Amberglam! I hope you end up getting some help or excitement from your family! I know with mine, it wasn't until the date got a lot closer that they finally showed excitement and interest and wanted to help. But that's just how my family is, we don't show our excitement very well! I'm sure you'll get more help when you truly need it :)

Amberglam My family is not typical. My parents told my DH NOT to marry me. I would NEVER do that to my kids! I planned my first wedding in two weeks because of the craziness in my family. She was not excited and she has NEVER been there for me as a mother should be. I was the reason she HAD to get married. I keep reminding her that in 1974 abortions were legal and it is not my fault I am here. I don't care how bad relationships are you don't say that to a kid at any age.

Thankfully, I am NOTHING like her!!!

My brother did not come to my wedding swearing it would not last. He now regrets it, but he will be coming to our vow renewal and my parents won't.

I think dealing with family is part of making sure the marriage WILL work. If you can work with your FI and deal with all of their demands and stand up to them when needed the marriage will be cake walk, but if you and your FI don't back eachother up and support each other than you know you will need to work on that because you need to be on the same page when you have your own children.