Are you responsible for bringing home most of the bacon, or is he? 

My husband is the primary "bread-winner" and it's hard for me...I feel guilty spending money bc I look at it as "his"...I wish we were more equal.  :(

Me.  I make about double what DH makes.  He is an electrician apprentice, so he doesn't make a lot.  When he finishes school and gets his license, then it will even out some, but I'll still beat him by quite a bit.  We have separate money so that we don't fight about it.  We split the household bills.

we split everything even.  though he makes much more than i do...so he's able to save more tham me and he normally pays more when we travel.

Right now I am the primary "bread winner" but it is not our ideal.

I honestly would rather him make all the money if it ever becomes an option so I can be home full time with our future kids and take care of our home (I know, it sounds so 1050's, but its the truth)... DH is working on his Masters Degree as we speak so hopefully other possibilites will open up for him once he is done where he can bring in a bigger paycheck.

He has a very conventional idea of how he should be providing for his family and I am perfectly fine with going along with that if are ever given the opportunity!! :-)

When H and I first started living together, my income was double his. Literally...almost right on the dollar. He "contributed" what he could, but honestly, there was no way we could split things 50/50. So I picked up ALOT of the tab and had to cut out alot of my own personal shopping etc. which after time, DID start to bug me a little (keep in mind though, we weren't even engaged).

Over time though, he got a better a job and promotions etc, and now he makes WAY more than I do. Which is awesome b/c I feel like it's "pay back" and I get to spend all his money...hehe...and I don't feel bad at all. He is LARGELY commisioned based so it varies alot too from month to month...

There will be times when I make more, when he makes more but at the end of the day, I really look at it as "our" money and don't make a distinction as to who contributed more.

Janie - don't feel bad!!!

He makes several times as much as I do.  So he's going to pay all the household bills and I'm going to buy groceries, etc.  And I carry family coverage health insurance.

we split everything even. we have 2 joint accounts and what ever we make goes to these accounts... DH is self employed, he runs a dog care business, and his income varies... but most of the time we make about the same... there were times that i was making much more than him, and we were both fine with it. 

DH makes a good deal more than me...almost double. But we only have joint accounts...nothing is separate. So all our paychecks go into one account and all expenses get paid out of one account. I think it's a recipe for arguments and resentment if you try to split expenses based on who makes what. To me, marriage is a partnership, not a business arrangement, and divvying up the bills just seems so impersonal. This is what works for us...

DH makes more money than I do :-(  This hopefully will only be temporary...I was making more money before we moved and unforuanately can't find many jobs that pay good out here. 

We have a joint account that we both have so much put into each pay check that covers all of our bills.  We had this same setup before we got married and it has been working for us so we just keep it like it is.  Everything left over in our personal account is our "fun money" that we can do whatever we please with..Since DH makes more money then me he usually will give me extra or pay for meals when we go out.

Ditto to what beatie said about splitting up based on who makes what. Dh and I share everything. Its our money not my money and his money. Its always worked (except a brief period of time I was unemployed, then we had a couple scuffles).

That being said, we make almost the same amount of money. I'm paid a little less hourly but I get overtime and he doesn't I also get quarterly bonuses. Regardless we look at it as equal.