PW Guide Article: Choosing Bridesmaids

I'm very up in the air about who too choose to be my bridesmaids. I already picked my maid of honor. That was an easy decision. I just wish the rest of my girls were as easy to choose. I will take this article into consideration when choosing them though.

I skipped bridesmaids and the whole bridal party altogether.  best. decision. ever.

I kept the bridal party small and intimate (MOH & Best Man).  It was perfect! 

For those who have been honored to be asked, it is perfectly all right to decline and explain your reasons.  Brides will appreciate your honesty up front rather than coping with the resentment as the wedding date approaches!

I like the small intimate bridal parties as well. That is mine!

I learned the hard way and have lost 2 bridesmaids. One is family and she tells me that since we've gotten older she feels like I don't like her? WTF? If I didn't like you why would I ask you to be in our wedding? So I've learned to hold off asking for as long as possible! I'm happy with my final selection of 4 !

I am European and in my culture we don't have bridesmaids, only best maid. I am however marrying into a family where bridesmaids are common. Is it strange to ask his sisters to be two of the bridesmaids, one of them will be heavily involved in the planning process? And choose two of my friends in addition.

I'm in the middle of having a huge argument with my fiance.  I picked 9 girls to be in my wedding party (two of them are my sisters).  He feels it's "too much," however, I feel it is a bride's decision to pick her girls.  These girls are my closest friends.  I couldn't ask 5 and leave out the other 3 without hard feelings.  I'd rather include them in the wedding party (they're all very excited and happy about it -- especially since I'm letting them choose long black dresses that they actually want to wear!), than make them feel bad.   And I certainly wouldn't forgoe a bridal party to avoid "fights."  My fiance does not have to pick 9 men.  He can pick whomever he feels should be part of it.  There's nothing wrong with buddying up two girls to walk down the aisle!

If I could do it over, I would completely skip the bridal party all together. I only chose two. The frst was my bf since middle school. Now, I wish I would have asked her to step down a long freaking tme ago. We went over the expenses and her duities (which werent a lot) and she bitches about it alll the freaking time. Im soo sick of it.

THe other one was soo freaking excited that i got engaged, and before I got engaghed, now she is MIA and I cant even get ahold of her.

I kept mine small so I didn't have too much drama