PW Guide Article: Groom's Day Out

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This is GREAT! I was so worried that the best man would push my guy into doing something that I wouldn't like that I couldn't think straight! He asked me if I had any idea and I didn't, so thank you, I am forwarding this to him right now!

great post!

My fiance and his cousin are planning a joint bachelor party. His wedding is 2 weeks after our wedding. They have theirs planned for a 2 day event. I figure, since I had a chance to have mine, and just have fun, he should have a chance to have fun too. I am completely fine with he and his friends, celebrating for 2 days. I figure, if I cant trust him to do this, then I shouldnt be marrying him. My feelings are, if he loves you, and truly loves you, he will behave himself. Just trust that he will make responsible and wise decisions. Thats why you love him, right?

I am sometimes baffled why so many brides are stuck on themselves for the wedding. It's not the bride's day. It's the bride and groom's day. After all, you are getting married to each other. I know not all grooms are this way, but my fiance has been a part of all the planning. Girls aren't the only ones who dream of their wedding day and the attention it brings. He helped plan because he wanted an equal part of our wedding.

Again, not all grooms are that way. However, I do think more brides should find a way to share the limelight with the groom and make it a time for him to have fun and shine too. I can't tell you how many vendors would start talking to me about letting the groom have a say, I would  butt in and say that he has an equal decision in everything we do, and they would be shocked. I've even been called a "complacent bride." It's kinda funny, but at the same time makes me wonder what most brides are like.

In any case, I think a Groom's Day Out is a great idea. But Bachelor parties aren't all bad either. Like heatherfine noted, if you can't trust him with a bachelor party, do you really have trust in the relationship? It is usually the best man's job to arrange the party. If you have anxiety over bachelor party shenanigans, perhaps talk to the best man ahead of time to express your concerns.

Another option I've noticed cropping more is a mutual bachelor/bachelorette bash. You, your groom, and all your friends all go out for a night on the town, drinking, dancing, whatever is your clique's thing. It's a way for all of you to enjoy yourselves, party, relax, and try to put your worries aside for while.

It isn't about the groom as much as it about the bride.  Regardless what anyone says, the wedding is taking place because of the bride.  The bride has the bigger role in the celebration.  We as brides have to look flawless and get everything together.  No one cares about the grooms tuxedo which is why he normally rents it.  The groom doesn't have a makeup and hair stylist with them the day of the wedding.

I guess I'm bias because I've spent 6 months straight planning my wedding and I'm now just days away from it.  I'm a good looking woman (not bragging, I just know i'm good looking) and everyone is anticipating what dress I will wear, how I will look, etc.  No one has asked my fiance' what he is wearing..

In regards to the wedding everyone approaches me in terms of the details.  Let's be honest.  This is MY wedding.  My fiance' is special to me and I love him with all my heart but if it was up to him, we would have someone else plan it and spent well over $100,000.  I managed to keep us at a reasonable budget. My wedding is going to be spectacular and beautiful.  Our marriage will be equally the same.

wow msleamarie... that is the MOST SELF CENTERED post i have EVER read. I'm sure she won't see this, but if feel sorry for the man she is going to marry!

I have bent over backwards to make sure that my groom to be is involved as much as possible. he has been dreaming of getting married as long as i have and i want him to look back at the wedding day as his "dream wedding" as well.

we had seperate bachelor/bachelorette parties, but i think it would have been more enjoyable to have a joint one. we have all the same friends, and my little brothers were busy at his party... and i don't have many female friends. We both still had a great time, don't get me wrong!

I think it's a great idea to give the groom some special day. But the problem is that EVERYTHING costs money. It gets kinda pricey when you're paying everything on your own.

This is such a great idea and a great alternative for the guy that doesn't like to go out to bars or drink.  I will suggest this to his friends.  Thank you!