RSVP with +1, what to do?

I need some help.... We just received an RSVP back that just has "guest" on the 2nd line with a meal choice. The invitee was not someone we planned on bringing a guest. We had too many people on our guest list as it is and we are still hoping for at least 3 NO's but getting this now I am concerned. We have gotten back just over 1/2 of our invites. Should we let it go and wait it out to see if we get enough no's or should I say something to her? She will know other people at our wedding (it is someone we used to work with and so far we almost have a complete table of former co-workers). I also don't want it to cause a problem if anyone else tries to bring a +1. What do I do? What would you do?

I am also worried about this. Since she has RSVP'd I wouldn't say anything personally but whenever someone calls or emails to say that they received your RSVP's make small talk about your concerns and how you wanted a smaller wedding but you're worried its going to be a bigger thing than anticipated. People usually get the hint. At least that has been my strategy and I certainly hope it works because we too are over!

Goodness. This is problem i think many of us will have. someone actually called me and asked if they could help me out and pay for her dates seat for the reception. wth?!? how am i supposed to respond to that?? how would anyone respond to that? like champagne wrote, not saying anything would be ideal for now and just try to beat other inquiring guests to the punch with small talk how over budget you are. it may help. but honestly, in my case i'm barely succeeding.
*sigh*

it's a tough thing to handle bc you do not want to come off rude. then again you are paying for so much, and not to make money main issue, it can be. sometimes guest don't really realizes how much a wedding costs unless they have planned one or at least helped plan one.

if it becomes a real concern, see what FI and/or anything who is helping out majorly with the wedding, thinks too. they may have better insight here and help you make a decision.

let me know what works for you. GoodLuck to you and Champagne!

I know its rude and a pain in the ^&*( but you might want to wait a bit and see who rsvps they cant go...it might surprise you,I have people who sent me a no and I was like are you serious!!Maybe youll luch out and have more then you think not be able to come...or if your like me you might not feel so lucky :(

I'm dreading this but what I am hoping for is that it will all work out.

We're planning what is basically a destination wedding and I understand that some people won't want to travel and stay alone. so I am bracing myself.

Eeek. Sorry, Cari. I think this is why we went with a "You have X number of seats reserved for your party". It's a little to the point, but at least it protects you.

You might have to wait it out until you get a few more RSVPs.

I agree maybe see how many RSVP's you get back first? Maybe in the meantime communicate with her, a disclaimer just in case you cannot accommodate her guest. I would love for so and so to attend with you, and will keep you updated if I get any declined RSVPs- or something along the lines. you know?

See my problem is even if I have open room from declined RSVPs- I have people on a "B list" that I would rather accommodate. Anyone else have this thought?

Ugh...this is probably one of the most challenging parts of the wedding planning for me. Anything to do with the guest list, invites, and RSVP's stresses me out. I agree with many of the PP's...wait it out. Its a tough situation to confront without coming off rude.

Miss.Mandy: what a great idea. I might have to borrow that idea :)

HolyMoly: we're in the same boat. I have a long list of "B-listers" to invite in place of any No's. It would frustrate me to have some guests bring an unexpected date preventing me to invite other potential friends/associates.

I'm dreading this too! My mom and I were thinking of having each guests names printed on the RSVP cards (since we're doing it ourselves). We both agree it's a painful process, but it's probably easier than doing the awkward calling.

HMM~ I would love to say, I would love for so and so to attend with you, and will keep you updated if I get any declined RSVPs, but the problem is, she literally wrote in "guest". There is no name whatsoever, so I have no idea who she is bringing. And like you, we do have a B-list. After talking to FI last night, we have decided that we will invite 2 people off our B-list and hope for the best.

Moe~ We seriously considered completeing the RSVP cards, like you, but it would have been way too time consuming and we needed to get them in the mail. Oh well, live and learn...

This is just so frustrating... But at least we have recieved more than 1/2 of our RSVPs, so hopefully it can only get better from here... at least I hope better and not worse! :)