A week after finding out we were pregnant, DH and I shared the news with a married couple we are close with.  They were incredibly happy for us but the husband remarked that he and his wife would never spill the news until after 10 weeks because something bad could happen.  Sadly I proved him correct and I had a miscarriage a few weeks after that.  When my husband told him what had happend, he offered a small condolance and shortly after that, we found out that they were also expecting.  They knew they were pregnant when we told them that I was pregnant, but they chose not to tell us just in case.  I just felt so stupid excitedly telling them I was having a baby to then lose it and find out they were pregnant the whole time.  And now when I see her growing belly, I go off and cry.  I am truly happy for them, they are wonderful people and parents.  I wish that I didn't feel overcome with some jealousy or bitterness or whatever I'm feeling.

*hugs* I'm sorry for your loss. I think your feelings are normal and expected. I hope that in time you and your DH will get a BFP again. *HUGS*

I've been pregnant 4 times now, with no baby to show for it...the novelty and fun of telling people has now been replaced by fear....I feel like we're crying wolf if we tell anybody....

Everybody I know who has been trying as long as us has at least 1 baby or is pregnant....I definitely have my "why not us" moments of sadness too.

So sorry to hear about your loss.  It is totally normal to grieve and to have the sadness you are feeling.  You telling people has nothing to do with your loss and, frankly, I know that if I ever get pregnant that are some select people I would want to tell right away (even if I wanted to tell others).  At least you have a support system to turn to now and are not trying to handle this loss privately.  

Everyone has to do their pregnancy their own way!  My bro and SIL miscarried their first, but still told people right away about the other two pregnancies anyway.  I wish you well and hope you get your sticky bean soon!

I think what you're feeling is totally normal.  And its nothing against them, its just a reminder of your loss. 

My mother and my aunt were pregnant at the same time...both with twins (me and my sis)!  My aunt lost her babies during the EIGHTH month.  She then had to watch me and my sister grow, attend every birthday party...and it was sad for her because her twins would've been the same age.  It's a constant reminder.  Me and my sister are now 36...and she still gets choked up when she talks about it. 

Jackie, your post brought tears to my eyes.  I can't imagine the anguish you must have felt when you found out your friend was pregnant the whole time.  But don't feel bad for annoucing your pregnancy early, it's only natural to want to share your excitement with your closest friends and family.  How could you have known it would end?  I was going to announce my pregnancy to my immediate family on Christmas, at only 5 weeks pregnant.  Instead, as you know, I was announcing a miscarriage :(  But you know what?  For my next pregnancy, I won't change a thing.  I know I'll want my parents and siblings to know.. whether it ends in joy or sorrow. 

I think your feelings of bitterness/jealousy/whatever is completely normal.  They are in a place that you thought you would be in.  Let the feelings run their course, but know that you will have your happy ending too.  Don't lose hope!  xoxo

:( this sucks!

I am sure that you will get pregnant again before you know it.  Don't feel stupid for spilling the beans to early.  I have had a couple of friends who went through the same thing, and one lost her baby at 5 months before giving birth to a baby girl.As much as it hurts, it does happen and you shouldn't feel bad for greiving or being a little envious.