Sending Thank You cards?

So we have been sending our thank you cards out and I have a question.  Most of our bridal party has not given us gifts.  Should we send out the thank you for standing beside us and leave it at that and not expect a gift?  And what about those guests that attended but you aren't sure will ever send a gift?  I am just so confused. :)

TIA!

I don't think you're required to send thank you cards to people that didn't give a gift, bridal party included, just because they attended your wedding.  If you gave your bridal party gifts for being in your wedding, that was your thank you.  Very strange that they never gave you a gift???

Hmm, I didn't really get gifts from my bridal party, either!  I think it would be best to send them cards related to the services they provided with being in the party and leave it at that.

I would not send cards to those that never sent a gift.  Proper protocol is to send a Thank You for the gift, not for being at the event.

If you wanted to send a different card for thanking them for coming, than that would be different.

HTH, Cari!

For our bridal party, we sent them a thank you for being a BM or GM that was separate from the normal thank you cards. If they also got us a gift, then we sent them that card separately... and I tried not to send them at the same time, so they received them seperately.

For guests who didn't give a gift, I can't answer. We had a few and we didn't send them a thank you card. (ettiquette gods may strike me down) We honestly didn't know what to say. If they'd traveled far to attend the wedding, then we sent them a thank you that talked about them making the trip.

HTH! Good luck!

Is it just me or does anyone else find it strange that both of your bridal party attendants didn't give you wedding gifts??  Every wedding I've ever been in, I've given the couple a wedding gift....

we sent thank you card to everyone.

Send them as an annoucement/ thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.... Definitly thank your bm's they did, I assume, buy their dresses and put a lot into your wedding... Hopefully anyways. Thank them for being your closest ones for your life...

Two of the weddings this year I was in had a few bms not give wedding gifts!! It was the first I've heard of it!! Blows my mind. I'm living my own personal 27 dresses and I always buy the bride and groom a gift!!! In fact, I usually spend more! Being a bm is an honor (sometimes hard) but it doesn't exempt you from proper ettiquette!!

Well, now I don't feel like the only crazy one.  :)  1 BM & 1 GM have given us a gift.  One of my MOHs has talked to me about it and was waiting to see what we wanted (didn't receive).  1 GM said that he (his girlfriend) ordered the gift but then there was a problem.  So that leaves 1 MOH, 1 BM, the best man (who is married to the BM), and 1 GM.  I know they spent money throughout the planning process, especially my MOH & BM, but I just think it is weird that they haven't gotten us anything.  Especially the BM & best man, because they are married.  And then there are those guests that said no, and probably don't know what the etiquette gods say... but I won't even go there.  I know they all technically have a year to give a gift, but I just want to be done with it already! :)

I have never heard of that either, I guess they still deserve a thank you for being a part of your day nonetheless... :)

I guess thank yous are good no matter what???  The polite thing to do...

We gave our friend $100 bucks at their wedding and didn't get a thank you, thought that was kind of wierd- so I alwasy give thank yous no matter what now...  Even if its just a card- like at our engagement party...

- HMM :)