September 11

I am planning on a Septemebr 11, 2009 wedding.  I have chosen this date because it is a 4th generation wedding date in my family; my parents, my mother's parents, and my mother's grandparents.

This date is important to me and means a lot to my family but it's hard to take in the reaction from people when I tell them the date I have chosen.  Most of the time, after explaining the tradition, people politely accept the date, but sometimes the feeling remains negative. 

How do I overcome this negativity?  Should I not choose this date?  Am I just too sensitive?

keep the date...

i thought about gettting married around the same time my mother passed away - just so it wouldnt be a sad time anymore - but it's also around valentine's day and no flowers are to be found or the cost of florals are doubled...

if it's a tradition in your fam - stick with it - you cannot change other people's reactions - just move forward with what you feel is importnt to you and your fh right??? 

My rehearsal dinner is on Sept 11 and my wedding is on Sept 13

Personally, I think thats a weird day for a wedding. As a guest, it would be odd to attend a "happy" event on that day without thinking of the greater context of the day.

I think you should pick a new date a start a new family tradition. In 100 years your great grand children would understand why the date was changed.

what about Dec 7???  do you think people stopped having events on Dec 7??

or Aug 6 or 9?? (when WE dropped the bomb on hiroshima and nagasaki killing thousands of civilians)

there are many sad days in our history - we shouldnt change our lives b/c of them...

i dont mean for it to be a sign of disrespect but if we were to live our lives according to the world calendar of bad events, we wouldnt have one day that is "happy"

Yeah it is weird, but what about tradition?  And I do agree with the Dec 7th, etc point also.  Sure it will be many more years till we are ok with the 9-11 date but isn't it ok to make happy memories on that date?  Are we letting them win by staying solemn on 9-11?  What truely is the 'greater context'?

the greater context is personal to you...  my vote is keep your family tradition going and get married on sept 11

i mean, my opinion shouldnt matter - nobody's opinions should matter - only what is important to you and your fh should matter...

what makes it wierd?? b/c we were attacked by terrorists?? and b/c thousands of people died??  not to be callous, but while it is a sad day and i feel for the kids who lost parents and spouses who lost spouses, what about your famly tradition??

do you think people in vietnam think... "well we cant have a wedding this day b/c that is when the americans invaded the gulf of tonkin"???  or do you think people in afghanistan block all parties or weddings on oct 7 - the day we bombed the sh!t out of their country??

life is life and you must do what makes you happy, and if that means having your wedding on a date that has significant meaning for generations, then do it!

and again, i dont mean any disrespect to any of the families who lost someone on that day - but c'mon, we cant keep tip-toe-ing around 9/11...  it's time to move forward.

its all up to you. i think its very nice and considerate that you're taking into account how people feel about the darkest date in American soil history. i mean, it was afterall the biggest terrorist attack on innocent civilians in our country. and boy did we get hit hard. however, you have every right to have your wedding on this day especially since its a family tradition. maybe you could honor the fallen with a moment of silence during your wedding. and of course highlight the reason you chose that day, because its a tradition.

Agreed stick with YOUR date. Anyways it can be a way to celeabrate the lives lost by starting new life...