Don't romanticize the idea of him being in the military. Many women get involved with a guy in the military because there's a romantic notion behind it but when real life sets in they can't handle it. Military life is HARD it's long hours, lots
of seperation, you're away from your friends and family, and you get lonely but the sacrifices are worth it because you're with the one you love.
Don't be so sucked into what was that you miss out on the what is. Many military wives are wonderful and you form fast friendships with them that will outlive the friendships you made before the military.
Make friends with other spouses they will be your support system when he's gone. I'm sure everyone's family is great during deployments but it's the wives that have husbands over there with yours that will get you through it.
Take advantage of all the opportunities being a military spouse brings. Many don't know that you can go to school for free and healthcare is wonderful.
Have your own identity. There will be months and even years you will spend alone. If you don't have your own life it will not be fun and you will not make it. Go to school, get a job, make your own friends. Build a life outside of your
spouse.
Get a pet. Sometimes the comfort of a pet is all you need.
The military came first and will always come first get used to it.
and last....
NEVER, EVER make him feel guilty about being in the military. I understand he chose to join but you chose to be with him. If you didn't like him being in the military you could have gone elsewhere. My biggest pet peeve is the gf that marries a
man in in the military then tries to make him give it up once they are married. My response when they complain is you shouldn't have married him in the first place.
