And she is very selfish and only likes to talk about herself. I've known this forever and I just deal with it... But recently her and her fiance' broke up. They'd been together like 7 years and they always break up and get back together...she never had a ring even though she kept sending me new pictures of "the ring".... it never turned up.... it was annoying but we get over it.  Well on this break up she immediately starts Match.com dating and every time she wants to meet a guy she asks me and FH to go along with her... umm weird first date if you ask me, but I can understand meeting a stranger....

So usually this is what goes down, my FH gets stuck talking to the guy; and she sits and complains about her life and her ex and their kid and this and that and so on and so forth to me... ugh...  She never asks how we are and how things are going with the wedding. Everytime I say something about it, she refers to the wedding she was supposed to have... example:  Me: "Hey! Guess what?!  We booked our honeymoon!  A private adults only all inclusive resort in Mexico~!!"   Her: " I was supposed to get married in Mexico".... ugh... now to rewind, she also booked her "Mexican Wedding" for the same weekend that our wedding is on... thats all canceled now... but man back when she told me that? Well, we didn't speak for awhile... She told me I was being selfish and I'm not the only one that can get married in October... The day we got engaged, I called her and she "had to go, I'm busy right now" Then text me later that evening saying, "Guess who else got engaged today?! Me!!" uhhh, you were already engaged but whatever...

She just gets on my nerves and I don't know how to tell her I'm not the only one annoyed by her, and that she's not a bridesmaid for this reason...

She doesn't sound like a friend at all!!!!!!!

She needs to go back to 3rd grade "Project Self Esteem" classes!!!!!!!!!!

She makes me want to use exclamation mark over-kill!!!!!!!!!! hahaha

I'd just step away for a while...limit your time with her.

I'd agree to a "fake" ER call 20 minutes into her date and give her an out, but that's it!

She is wack.

Ugh, why are you friends with her?  She sounds unbearable, and like she will be single for a long time.... 

I agree, why are you even "friends"?

I don't think you even have to explain as to why she isn't a BM. If she asks, then you can tell her exactly why- because of her s**t attitude. =)

Or you could just be bitchy and tell her she isn't a BM because obviously she wouldn't have been able to do the job considering her wedding was on the same day! I think she is jealous of what you and your hubby-to-be have but is sounding very much like a spoilt child-so selfish. No the world doesn't revolve around her and yes at the moment it does revolve around you and your wedding-cut her loose and enjoy your wedding planning honey-she doesn't deserve you and you don't need her as a distraction for such a happy time your life :)

I did tell her why I was not asking her to be a bridesmaid, She proceeded to chew me out about how selfish and unhappy I am and then didn't speak to me for weeks... Don't you love when people call you out on everything they feel about themself? 

She seems very bitter that you are happy, and she's all alone. A friend that is in constant competition with you isn't a friend at all.

"She makes me want to use exclamation mark over-kill!!!!!!!!!!"

LOL :-) 

I know she's not that great of a friend... And I think deep down she knows that too.  I'll start distancing myself and see if she even notices... I have to invite her to the wedding because she already knows she's invited, and complained about having to buy a new dress (I didn't make you buy a new dress, you did that all on your own sista'!) Gawd, can you imagine if she was in the wedding, all the stuff you have to pay for to be in a wedding... geez, I'd never hear the end of it!

I think you are doing the right thing by starting to distance yourself *HUGS*  I know that letting go of a friendship is never easy, even if you know its not a happy relationship

Good, I'm glad you're going to start making some distance.  She is a toxic friend and at this already crazy stressful time of your life, you don't need to deal with her BS.  Good luck!  :)