I chose their dresses - the MOH dress was from the same designer, but a different style! I definitely asked for their input in terms of budget (which was the most important thing for me!), style and what they'd feel comfortable wearing.
I was very blessed though because my girls were up for pretty much anything and were so easy to please. :)
For my wedding I let them pick both but I did list 5 colors
When I was a BM for my SIL's wedding she chose dress and shoes, but the shoes did not and would not fit me. She really did not have a choice, but let me find a pair that would fit. I was a 9.5 double wide at the time.
When I was MOH the first time I wore what she wanted down to the shoes (divorced year later)
The second time I was MOH for her I picked Dress and Shoes she is still married. I kind of expected this and I really wish she had not divorced him.
Vow Renewal - I am not having attendants, so people will wear what they want. My sister is the officiant and she is also going to wear what she wants.
For my sisters wedding I will be her photographer and she said I could wear what ever I wanted from one of the BM's gowns to a Suit. I am going with a Tunic and pant in her colors. So that I can feel dressy and yet not worry about a dress for
those low angle shots. I hope to be a size 12/14 by then!
I let my girls chose there own gowns. They knew the colour that I wanted and My only stipulation was that they be from the same company and same fabric so that they would match. I wasn’t picky about length but wanted them to both be the
same (i.e. all tea, long, short etc)
They were able to find different dresses that matched each other (and there own body types and personalities) perfectly.