I am at the point where i feel as if I need to call my wedding off. FH did nothing wring but he still isn't sure. And says that before we get married he wants to make sure I am the one. Well with that being said I don't think that he is ready to get married ne time soon. All of this came about when we were talking about rings. And his mom told him that she wanted us ti use his father who has passed away and her wedding set. And he never responded to what she had to say. She also told him that he can have it noe to give toi me. And he had yet to ask her for the ring. Or even tell his mom the date of our "wedding". I have no doubt that he loves me it's just that he isn't ready. And there isn't anything wrong with that. So with all that being said, unless a change happens. Then I am done and moving on with my life. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Just had to get this off my chest. I really don't have anyone to talk to about this. I don't know what will happen or what this will me for the two of us.

I know Im not a former WW poster but I just wanted to say  it takes a lot of strength to make a decision like this .... especially not knowing what may result ...

((hugs))  so many women would just push for the wedding anyway , with total disregard for the man's feelings or "true"  wants .... I admire the courage it took for you to make this decision as well as post about it .... Good Luck in your decision and no matter what it is make sure it's a decision that is true to you , your value , your worth, and your right to live the life you want

Denise

If he is not ready, then he is not ready....and you can't force him to be ready.  If you know he loves you and you love him, there is nothing wrong with waiting until you BOTH are ready.  Are you done and moving on with him because he doesn't want to get married or are you done with him because you don't love him anymore?  If it's because he is not ready for marriage, then I think you are being selfish (You know I love you girl, and I wouldn't steer you wrong).  There is nothing wrong with not being ready to marry, unless he is saying he doesn't want a relationship with you period or if he is saying that he will NEVER be ready for marriage, and if that's the case, then yes, You should move on with your life if you want to be married someday, but if it's that he doesn't want to be married RIGHT NOW, but still wants to grow in the relationship, then yes, you are wrong for feeling like you need to move on.  (hugs)

I'm not a former WW user either but I just wanted to give you a *HUG* and to say it takes a lot of strength, courage and love to see and say what you just said. You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who truly loves you and wants to marry you - your FI may be the one and with patience it may all work out for you both. If not - you are strong and courageous and will find happiness elsewhere. Much love and hope to you in whatever decision you make. *HUGS*

Thanks, girls!! Chances he does want the relationship. He doesn't want me to leave. He told me that he does wnat to marry me. But he is afraid. Like he says he wants it to be forever and not just for the moment. I love him more than anything. There isn't nothing that I won't do for him. And it is the same way for him. But it's hard and I am more than ready. He is fine with the date being in Sept. But it's the fact that I know he isn't ready

PM later on tonight on Facebook if you can.

Have you tried going to pre-marital counselling together? Maybe that will help ease his mind. If you do call the wedding off (for now) you should also consider relationship counselling.

In that case boo boo, I think you need to wait it out, buuuuuuuuuuutttt, if you don't want to wait then you have to do what you gotta do.  But I think he is making a very wise decision, you don't want to get married and divorced within a year or having him feel resentment towards you about making him get married in order for you not to leave him.

I think as PP said, relationship couseling would probably be a good idea, or if you go to church, talk to your pastor.

Aww KLD I am sorry hunny. Maybe he is just having "cold feet." Obviously he loves you if he still want's the relationship. I agree, counseling sounds like a good thing to do. ((HUGS)) Everything will be ok. :)