Ok is it just my FI who is obsessed with the idea of a 3sum??

Is it just me who thinks its kinda hot, but also kinda way gross all at once?!

No way, I've definitly considered getting someone to come home with us. I always chicken out, unfortunately.

lol my FI mentioned it once but said its just a fantasy. Nothing he would ever actually want to act out on.

I guess the fantasy part of it is kinda hot to me but I don't like the idea of another girl on my FI or another guy on me for that matter. We shall just keep it a fantasy! ;)

my FI loves the idea, hes been joking about it for years.  ive considered it, but never done it.  if we were going to it would have to be with someone neither of us knew bc i wouldnt want it to be someone we were friends and would see all the time.  like on vaca or something like that.  but at the same time, if i dont know them then i dont know where theyve been, kwim?  so im not sure if it would ever actually happen, but as you can see ive thought about it... lol!

I think he likes the idea of me with another girl, so in that way, it's a fantasy of his.  But I'm not into girls, so he's out of luck.

I will say that overall, I think it's a bad idea, unless it's something you plan on doing on a regular basis.  I think generally speaking, this has to be a lifestyle that you engage in regularly simply because the novelty gets addicting.  (Ever know anyone who only used a toy once or only watched porn once?  Basically the same.)  For the people I've know to do this, they end up having open relationships, swapping partners or adding a plus one pretty frequently.  And since you don't have to go thru the day to day stress with the extra person, it can cause problems between the couple because one of them ends up falling for the extra person.  Obviously there are exceptions, but this is just what has happened to the ones I know.

My husband thinks they are a bad deal, I kind of think they are hot and a bad deal at the same time.  I think that I could get satisfied the same way with some role playing or other creativity in the bedroom, not necessarily another person - so just a fantasy for us.

Ive never either, but Ive always thought about it. Ditto to what Meany said. that happened to one of my good friends. Once they did it, her husband wanted to do it more, then ended up cheating on her and was like " what, you let me have a 3some." they divorced

I wouldn't bring it in to our relationship, we already have a great sex life

I think it would be hot to have a 3 sum! But FI doesn't like to share! So looks like I am out of luck!

We talk about it but we never would.  I would never be able to get it out of my mind and I would always wonder...Was she better hten me, does he find her hotter, does she give better head.  Yeah no, it wouldnt work.