I was always curious before I got with my FI and then he used to always talk about it....on our 1 year anniversary - I gave that to him for a present after much deliberation and on my terms. I am EXTREMELY jealous so I never thought I could do it but to be honest - I am still turned on to this day thinking about watching him with her. It was only so-so for me, I did it all for him. Well, we had a few more after that, but I have to agree with Meanyprice - it became too much for me - and he understood. Well once we decided to get married, I told him that those days were over and if you could have seen the look on his face.....he asked for one last time which I gave him and it actually sucked and made us both realize that we really do only want each other forever! So, it was fun back in the day when our relationship wasnt mature and we werent that mature - but now - Im not sharing and he isnt either.

My FI says its a fantasy but would never go through with because of A.) sharing me is a big no no, and B.) you put your entire relationship at risk no matter how solid you are.

My FI has had one before and loves it apparently. I told him over my dead body it would happen...and also I asked him how would you like it with 2 guys and me? He said hell no and I said, well there is your answer!

well it depends on what your relationship is based on.

My guy and I are poly, forcing the other one to be mono would never ever work, that would kill the realtionship as it has done for both of us so many times.

I love  my guy with my whole heart, his is my number one and I am his, however I am mature enough and  able to love more people with out forgetting my number one and so is he. 

And yes when the  time comes we will add on, we have a girl in mind, so then there will be a plus one.

He knows my  secondary well, they have a laugh together and likes to drink beer together so  friendship feelings all around.

I would never marry my secondary cause he and I doesnt have that kind of relationship.

I did marry my number one cause he lets me be me fully and loves me for who I am and doesnt want me to change.

Nice being with some one who isnt jealous or possessive for once and who lets me blossom and love HIM to the fullest, which makes him blossom too and loving to the fullest too.

When my fiance and I first started dating, I told him I was completely up for it. 3 years later, I finally get the courage to actually go for it, tell him I want to do it, start talking to a girl about it... and he GETS UPSET! He said it seemed like it was more for me than for him.... Isn't the girl usually the one to get insecure? Lol. 

So I called it off.

Which is probably a good thing, because I would obsessively try to compare that girl to me. I know I would.

And honestly, I think a lot of girls would... 

Anyway, if you think it's gross but you want to do it, just don't go down on the girl. I mean, I see no difference between a girl/guy going down on you. It's what you're doing to them and how comfortable you are with it.

We talked about it! And I’m definitely open to the idea. Have been actively searching for THE girl….but so far no one yet! Yes, it’s the fear that I’ll be comparing myself to the girl or being suspicious after it happened….But really like to try it just once and keep my mind open for it! Finding the right (especially CLEAN person) is just hard, and Im very picky….LOL…I don’t want to go to a sex club/swingers paty or anything like that, seems too scary for my first time…….

I have had a 3 some... all I can say is it may be exciting and fun at the time, but the next morning its like a a bad hangover. You start thinking of all the ways it could get really complicated.

Like meanyprice said, and my main concern was always if he'd want to be with the other girl and end up falling for her...

Um, no, no and NO!  I would never share my FI with anyone!  I'd die having to see him kiss on a nother girl, let alone doing it to her. no thanks.

How about a plus none? lol

Not for us! Ever...ever! lol

DH and I have talked about it and neither of us has ever wanted it.  I had a couple in my college years, one with my BFF and her boyfriend for his birthday.  The best part was with my friend, but I have always been a little bit bi.  My husband says he would be worried that he would be totally left out and me and the girl would be going at it and he is not into girl on girl.  We have talked about having another couple watch us or us watch them, but we think the fantasy is better than the reality would be.