Sorry, its long.
There is a woman that I've been obligated to include in all wedding events. Unfortunately, she is a good friend of my FMIL. I've talked with FMIL about my feelings for this person, but it doesn't seem to get through. Instead, FMIL confronted her friend leading the friend to "apologize" by making up an excuse that she'd been drinking and that I should never take seriously what she says when she drinks. What?! Ya, when ppl drink they usually "spill the beans," and speak their mind. She was at our engagement party, she was at the bridal shower, and she'll be at the wedding. Every party and get together my FIL's have, she's there. I can't escape her. She's a very bitter woman that is unhappily married. She extremely pretentious and makes for very akward situations.
For better understanding here are a few of the many reasons why I'd rather not be around her (at all!):
-At the engagement party, she said to me regarding my FI and myself, "You two have way too much history, it'll never last."
-She recently asked my FI where the "calendar is with big black X's counting down to doom's day."
-She publicly pointed out and carried on and on about a very good family-friend's 15ct diamond ring. Yes, its that big, but really inappropriate & tacky to discuss publicly.
-She's a self-proclaimed "interior designer/decorator" (she's remodeled 3 houses of her own) and critisizes/degrades any of my work she comes in contact with...so unprofessional (I'm a certified & degreed Interior Designer with almost 10 years of experience and awards to back me).
All in all, she's a very negative and toxic person. I just can't get my FMIL to understand where I'm coming from. She makes excuses for her friend saying that she doesn't come from money so she doesn't always know how to act. Well, it sure doesn't take money to get manners or respect! My FI says that letting her get to me is like letting her win and I should just ignore it.
How should I handle this? Should I let it go and risk her saying or doing something out of line at the wedding? I can't stop thinking about her...ugghhhh.