VENT AHEAD!! my bm is a huge aw!

ok first let me preface this by saying for the 15-years i've known her, she has always been so sweet to me (and the rest of our friends)..

she's the type of friend that if it was 10 below outside and you were stuck with no gas - she'd be there with a gallon to help you out in less than 20 minutes...

she's made some decisions in her personal life that would register a big fat negative on the morality scale, but hey - that's her personal business and she's never betrayed my confidence or my trust...

i just got off the phone with fh and he tells me: "i think hullabaloo (duh- fake name) has a crush on me--- she's been calling me more and more and text messgs me almost everyday"

ok lemme back up - fh and she were in cahoots when he was trying to pick my ering and i just dont "trip" about my gfs having his cell #... i have his friends' cell #s saved in my fone also... sometimes i text his one gm who is a huge dodgers fan when our team wins, but nothing inappropriate or overly friendly...

ok so lately, she's been in umm - let's just say - her personal life is in "tragedy" mode right now - but it's all her doing and while i feel bad that one of my bffs is sad, well it's her fault b/c she keeps making the same bad choices and decisions when it comes to men (shrugs), despite advice i give her, as well as our friends giving her the same advice...

ok so i knew they would occassionally talk and it never really bothered me...until a few weeks ago...

c'mon ladies - we are all women and we are all wired with "that" radar... well, it started around val's day--- "oh you're so lucky you have a real man in your life - he adores you-- i wish i had someone like that in my life"

me: uh-huh.. ok thanks

then: "ooh your husband is so funny - i text mssgd him today to see what he was up to and he told me to get a life--- he's so funnyy!!!"

me: uh-huh - ok... i'm thinkin - he wasnt being funny - he was telling you to get a life!! ok so my fh can be blunt like that...

so then i told him - she's got a huge crush on you!

him: what?? no way - she's a hot mess and she's only attracted to men who break her heart.. she doesnt want me

me: ok - i didnt say she wanted you per se, i'm just saying - she's got a crush on you and one day she's gonna say something inappropriate b/c she's desperate

so lately - she's been text mssging him asking him for "advice" on how to deal with the men in her life...

when he told her to stop dealing with guys that are "bad boys" and go for someone who is a "nice guy" she said to him: "i wish i could find someone like you"

is there an emoticon for WTF???

so he's being nice and says: "well, you should call (me) and ask her for advice with all this girlie stuff...you probably should be talking to her in the 1st place."

she lives in ny and is in the middle of a nasty divorce and is juggling 2 boys that dont treat her right at all...

i know nothing will ever happen passed this - but it's so annoying that she was so "eh whatever" when i first told her about me & him... she even said - he's probably going to be a rebound for you"

and now it's like she's hanging on to him for emo support and whatever... ugh!!

oh lemme just add - when we first announced our engagement - she asked me if it was ok if she got her boobs RE-DONE!!!

i told her - it's cool - they're your t!ts...

then she had the nerve to say "well, i wouldnt want people staring at me and my new boobs when people should be paying attention to you and your new husband on your wedding day"

omg!!!! if she hadnt been such a great friend for all these 15 years, i would have told her to take her silicone and get to steppin!!

and again - she really is a sweet girl - i know she's just hit a rough spot and maybe feeling bad about the end of her marriage etc... but still!

ok rant over!

OMG! I'd be HELLA mad!

who the fcuk does she think she is.. makin comments like that: "wouldn't want people staring at me and my new boobs when people should be paying attention to you and your new husband".. UH.. NO!

self absorbed I tell ya.
man oh man. I don't give a shit if my man talks to any chicks.. or my home girls.. BUT if it were a situation like THAT I'd be pissed. not at my man.. but at that broad.
that's just a plain out NO NO!

I PERSONALLY.. would be blunt about it. I'm jus like that.. I'd call her out.. even IF she's going through a nasty divorce only because she puts herself in those type of situations (relationships) to begin with.
I'm a BLUNT broad. no joke. so yea that's just me. (ha the evil is comin out lol)

oh we've not talked for a couple months before---- ok well since i'm not saying her real name - i might as well just say it

about 8 months or so, after me telling her NOT to do it, after fh telling her not to, after all our friends telling her not to - she still had an affair with a married man... hello!?!?!?!?

so then i started thingkin - why sohuld i have her stand up there with me being witness to my wedding when she herself doesnt believ in the sanctity of marriage...

then i got off my white horse and accepted that she is human and makes (huge) mistakes... and at the end of the day - i still wanted her there

but yeah we didnt talk for months b/c i told her she was a dingdong and that if i even smelled her near any of my guy friends, any of my guy cousins or my fh i would have her heart for lunch and her liver for dessert... ok so over-dramatic - but i did tell her not to being her drama over here...

i'm little, i'm short, i'm mos def a girlie-girl, i'm not any of the stereotypes of the "fighting" girl - but anyone comes near the people i love, i'm goin down swingin, kwim??

hey hey hey.. I'm little.. n I'M short! lol

I'm the same.

and she sounds like my sister! hahaa

booo!

OMG!!!!! What the hell is she doing?!!!??? I think she is jealous that you have a GOOD man and all she goes for are horrible men. I think she wishes she had what you have.

You need to nip this in the bud. It sounds like she is growing an attachment to your man and that is NOT healthy/good.

You need to set her straight before she tries to do more than just text him and call him. I am sure that Nolan would never do anything with her, but SHE might try to make advances on him.

Talk to her before it gets so bad that you have to take off your earrings, take off your shoes and get the baby powder and bitch slap her. :0)

wait - you bringin the vaseline right??? hahahahaha

well we dont see her til yhe wedding next year - she lives in new york tg! hahahaha

yeah i'm callin her tomorrow =)

hahaha

ew baby powder n vasaline lol

u two r silly

I have your back...so if you need vaseline, then I'll bring it..lol

wow ladies i am so out of touch,...WTH is the vaseline and baby powder for? (hmmm can u tell i've never been in a fight?..or...er...seen one, oh man i sound like a total square now)

dirty...i'm so sorry your bm is an aw. hopefully that's all it is, but IMO it's totally out of line for her to even be texting him regularly, no matter what the subject. she's obviously doing it to get your attention, and maybe compete for some weird reason. i used to know a girl like this and as soon as i sniffed her out she was gone. but i only knew her for like a year. good thing she's in NY!! but yeah, i'd talk to her about it.

hahaha!!

1. take your earrings off so the other girl cant pull on them and rip your ear

2. vaseline on face so when the punches fly - her fist/open palm will slide off your face

3. take shoes off - cant fight in stilettos - might lose your footing

hahahaha!!