VENT: Just a little offended.

Mother back story....

She has NOT been supportive of my relationship until very recently and I feel like I'm having to pay for them to be there (buying their clothes, accomodations, etc). In fact FI wasn't even allowed in their house for the first year and she still called me by my ex's last name. 

Soo....

My mom just forwarded an address to me because she forgot to invite someone. Down the thread of the email she says "My daughter is getting remarried. This time it's more casual so feel free to bring along *insert-kids-name*"

I know they put out a lot of money for my first wedding (because she would have married my ex if she could and a lot of reason we stuck together was from pressure from my mother) BUT this wedding is actually more expensive, we're paying for everything ourselves, and it's not a free for all like "just stop on by whenever, bring your friends"... WTF.

*VENT... haha, can't spell when I'm tying angrily. 

Thanks for fixing this Mrs. Hostess :)

Ugh, that is so annoying. I'm so sorry she's doing that to you. My parents added a lot of people to our guest list, but a 85% of them didn't end up coming, so it turned out to be fine. If they did, we definitely would've been over our budget -- but really, we couldn't argue since they paid for at least half of our wedding! It wouldn't have flown if we paid for the whole thing! Just breathe.. it will be okay :)

I would defnitely say something to her, though! It's not okay for other people to rule your wedding plans!

Oh goodness! That is obnoxious and rude. I'm sorry! =[

I am so sorry you are going through this! There's nothing like adding stress on top of the pile. :(

Have you tried talking with her, letting her know exactly how you feel? I hope things get better for you! Sending good juju your way!

Thanks ladies! I just needed to gripe to someone who knows about wedding stress!

My mom is bipolar and as a result really passive aggressive and thinks everything is an attack on her. Even if I said something she'd say "oh honey, I'm sorry" then do a bunch of weird things to "get back at me" when she's in a down moment. Such is life. 

I'm just hoping a bunch of people she invited don't just show up without seats or food!

Ugh that would totally annoy me. Sometimes people just don't realize what they're doing!

That would annoy me and I've had my fair share for family drama, everything will work out like it always does! :)

Sorry bout that.  That would annoy the hell out of me too.  I probably wouldn't be able to remain nice though. haha    You're a good daughter for not drilling her to the wall.  

OMG!  I'm so sorry you're being presented with such ignorance and from your mother no less. 

Big hugs!