We're having the 2 ceremony thing:

CHINESE CEREMONY - which is really traditional (in the Chinese-sense).  FI will have to pick me up at the alloted time and play "games" in order to "get me".  Then we honor my ancestors and we drive to his home and honor his ancestors.  THEN we have the tea ceremony and the reception to follow.

SECOND CEREMONY - more American style but the thing that will be untraditional is:
 - my parents may not be there with me when we do the vow exchanges because we were only going to invite the friends that weren't invited to the Chinese one.

We have a butt load (pardon my language) of attendants for a really small wedding... we needed six swordsmen plus FI's two best friends from college who are not in the military... soo two will be ushers and yup we have six GM. So then I had to have six BM and they are each picking their own navy colored dress. And yes, our wedding is btwn 50-60 ppl hahaha

No garter

Photos before the ceremony, the one time we are totally bucking tradition for the sake of spending more time with our out of town guests

Our other nontraditional thing is that we had to get married at city hall before the wedding because of circumstances (military) and then we'll have a third "wedding" in Asia with my mother's family which will be more traditional next February.

Bells for the recessional and then a sword arch outside of the chapel

We're giving books as favors

Our first dance is a waltz and yes, we both know how to waltz from our childhoods haha. We practiced the other night and its like riding a bike, it comes back to you!

While a lot of our friends have totally bucked tradition and got really creative, we're really traditionalists at heart. We feel like western civilization is a "has been" in the modern society, which we both feel is very sad and we realize not a lot of people share those views. So a lot of the little things in our wedding are going to be very proper and very traditional and while we realize most people aren't like that anymore, it still means a lot to us. So we're having an old fashioned cake topper, an old fashioned cake flavor, our band is playing music from the 20's through the 40's, we had very classic invitations (some say boring but we loved them) and we're having very traditional day-of activities.

This is a great topic...so interesting to see what others are planning.

We are doing a VR with just us- my hubby, myself and our two children.  Then later that night we are hosting a dinner and dessert party with fireworks.  I am undecided about a cake...we may do a cake since I love cake!  No bouquet or garter toss.  In fact, it's going to more of a "let's have a dinner party with friends" then a reception.  I think we may set up an iPod to play music but nothing to really dance to.  After our dessert party we may continue at a piano bar if we want to drink and dance. 

We will be writing our own vows.  We will also be saying vows to our two children...vows stating that we will always be there for them and vowing to be best parents we can be. 

We are getting new rings to celebrate. I plan to wear mine as my wedding band and retiring my original one since it's gold and I don't wear gold.

As for photos, I am opting out of the "getting ready" photos and some other traditonal wedding photos.  I just want ones of the ceremony and a few here and there.  I want fun photos, no stand here, pose and kiss.  Been there, done that.  ;)  We will do video because I want my kids to see the vows we said to them when they are older.

I plan to use things that will have just our last initial, maybe our last name...like for our runner.  I don't want it personalized with a date or our first names because my hope is that one day my boys will use it for their own weddings.  If I leave it with just our last names, they too can use it. 

When it's all said and done and we get back to our hotel room, I may whip out my iPod and play our wedding song...while the kids are fast asleep.  My how times have changed for us! 

That's all I can think of now...

I agree with Chic & Corrainder, it is YOUR wedding, YOUR day, do it in any way that makes your heart jump, your eyes twinkle and your mind relax. 

Corriander is right... great topic!  Personally, I am traditional while my husband in much more modern but we've found our balance.  He's come to fall in love with the idea of a Church wedding (it was always agreed yet I think at first is was more me) and I have come to love the modern appearance of things... so we will do almost everything traditional in terms of schedule, ceromony, receptions etc... such as standard pictures (with the untradional before the ceremony - I want my make to be "fresh"), not to mention I want before pics at the reception site - so that jams us on time... we're having a small  et full bridal party... BM, MOH, GM, BM, Jr. BM, Ring Bearer, Flower Girl, tradional vows with an additional much like Corrainder - we also are doing something special to the kids... traditional reception activity... first dance, parent dance, toast, cake cutting, bouquet & garter toss and favors... what will be different is my dress.... not the huge fancy frilly lace I always thought I'd wear... seems I'm looking more into the sleek white with an accent color strapless a-line... we've picked two colors beyond the black&white attire, a lead color and an accent color.  I'm strumming my brain to pull off a way to make a multi-cultural theme (though our main cultures are the same, I have additional ones that I'd like to incorporate even if just in music or decoration).

And of course the honeymoon... the night may or may not end up "family" style but the kids were sad we eloped in Las Vegas... so we were thinking that our "honeymoon" would be a family trip to Las Vegas...

I say, do as you wish, enjoy your day and be happy ")

The majority of our wedding was non-traditional! I didn't do traditional white/cream/ivory invitations. I did the mint green from paperdivas.com. I loved them! Our ceremony, which was immediate family and 5 of our closest friends, was on the pier over looking the lake. I wore a white sun dress and my husband wore jeans and a button down. We walked down the pier together. We wanted something that represented us, and we're very low-key people, we like things simple, so that's what we did. I'm one of five kids and there was no way I was going to be able to pick a MOH.lol Worked me out of that problem really quick!

We had a somewhat traditional reception in which everyone was invited to. We didn't do a tiered cake, but a giant sheet cake that was mint green with fresh daisies all over it. Those are my favorite! We didn't do our first dance by ourselves, but had everyone join us. It was wonderful and I couldn't have asked for more. We did everything how we wanted and things that represented who we are!