Our budget was about $26 - 26K for 105 guests not including rings or honeymoon.

That price tag sounds so painful but we had a fabulous wedding!! We chose to go to the outskirts of the Bay Area and book a friday night to save money so we could have all the things we wanted like linens, chiavaris, lighting, photobooth.

Venue: $13,800

Included:

Food - 6 apps passed and stationed, fabulous trio plate with beef/chicken/fish (the food was amazing)

Open Bar for 5 hours

All of our guest centerpieces and gazebo decor for the ceremony

An amazing DJ

Wedding Cake (we paid $150 to upgrade to a sugar paste and fondant design)

Officiant (he was great!)

Invitations: $120

Photobooth: $1050

Photographer: $2900 (plus additional $800 for parent albums)

Videographer: $2100

Florist: $800 (for bouquets, bouts, additional arrangements for non guest tables)

Rose Petals for aisle: $200

Lighting: $1100

Chiavari Chairs: $850

Linens: $350 (orange pintuck for guests, crushed taffeta for sweetheart table)

Dress: $650 (sample from Bay Area Bridal)

Veil: $55

Hair Flower: FREE

Hair/Makeup: $650 for hair & makeup for me and mom, all hair for MIL and 4 BMs

Bracelet: $65

Earrings: $95

Shoes: $42 (from DB)

Shoe Clips: $22

Pedicure: $40

Backless/Strapless Bra: $65

Tux for Groom: $135

Converse for Groom, Dad, BP: $300

BP Gifts: $600

Other stuff (menus, programs, card holder, etc): $200

I'm sure I'm forgetting an item or two...

It depends. We're planning our wedding (same date, 10/10/10) in Sausalito for 120 people for $10,000. However, I also do day-of wedding coordination here in the Bay Area and my clients typically spend $30,000-50,000 for 150-250 guests in locations such as wineries and hotels. My sister recently got married at Casa Real in Pleasanton and it was a pretty penny. I'm happy to provide recommendations for local vendors who might fit your budget. Cheers! Vera

We had budgeted 40k, and are getting closer to 45k with everything. Our venue is in northern Sonoma county at a vineyard and it is mainly food and location that are so much. Our budget also does not include dress, honeymoon, rings and a few other small charges.  It is just expensive to have a wedding in the Bay Area, though I think it will be worth it.

We are budgeting $10k for our wedding in 2011 with about 60-70 guests. We haven't booked a venue yet but I've found a few venues we liked. That doesn't include the rings and honeymoon. I am quite worried that we may go over the budget, but we're trying really hard to stick to it. We're also doing a lot of things ourselves (like design the invites and all paper stuff, flowers, music). I've decided to just make my own wedding playlist for the event and not hire a DJ. I'm not going to buy a dress more than $500. We're not having an open bar -- we barely drink and don't want people to get drunk. lol... plus it helps that the venue doesn't allow spirits. I think our biggest splurge would be the venue, food, photography and videography (last item, may be a gift from relatives). Hopefully, we can stick to our budget in the end. :) Let me know if you know any vendors who don't charge wedding rates! lol. :)

I told my mom we wanted to do our wedding for 170 guests for $20,000 and she laughed at me.  Turns out it's more like $40,000-$45,000, including bridal party attire and gifts -- but not including the honeymoon, rehearsal dinner or farewell brunch. We'll be splitting costs with my parents and MOG will be hosting the rehearsal dinner.

I'm hoping to add honeymoon items to our registry.

About half of that amount, just under $20,000 is the cost of the reception catering, rentals and venue. 

Our photographer is just under $3500 without an album.

I plan to spend around $2500 on video.

My dress ended up being a splurge - but I am saving on veil and accessories by using my sister's veil and my mom's jewelry.

I'm just starting to figure out flowers now, and am hoping to do them for $3000 or less.

If we need to cut things from the budget than I think we'll try to cut down on:

- transportation for us and for our guests

- stationary

- fancy chairs or linens

- scale back the wedding cake, or do cupcakes instead

- use a dj instead of a band (we're leaning this way anyway)

- no specialty lighting

My budget is about $16K (not including attire or honeymoon or rings).  We're having our ceremony in a park and the reception in a backyard.  We're renting everything, we're using a relative as a caterer, and we're getting our booze from Costco.  If you're going with a legit venue and are going to have more than about 60 people, I think under $20K is going to be hard. 

But . . . if you love SF, I highly suggest (a) ceremony somewhere in Golden Gate Park (http://www.sfgov.org/site/uploadedfiles/recpark/Permits_and_Reservations/wedding_sites.pdf)  and then reception at a favorite restaurant.  It's much cheaper.  Someone suggested it to me at the beginning of my planning, and I wish I'd followed through!

I've checked out a zillion sites in the SF Bay area (including East Bay), so PM me if you have questions!

I think it's possible to do a dinner reception for about 200 for close to $10k if you really wanted to (if that was really an issue). My budget's about $10-15k for about 200-250 people in the bay area. It involves a lot of research though.. we're having a church wedding and a dinner reception at the sunnyvale community center, and bringing in food from a restaurant with no servers. This saves enormously, but we're going to have to rely on a lot of help on the day-of. But, for $14 a head, we thought it was worth it!

roughly around 55k for 275 guests.

Do all of your numbers include tax and gratuity or is this before all that?  Yes, it's expensive here in the Bay.  I'm getting married in SF.  We looked all around the Bay.  I just negotiated my price for my hotel and they quickly accepted.  Maybe it's the economy? 

Yes, mine includes tax and gratuity. We had to make sacrifices on the venue, making time to do a lot of research, and we're fortunate to have talented friends who are providing services at a lower rate.

Plus, it helped I won the Save-the-Dates, iDIY letterpress machine, 100 postcards and all out photography!