my definition is loyalty and devotion in spite of the circumstances surrounding you, good or bad.

I agree Kim. As long as you are both loyal and devoted, then I feel you are comitted. You can't be comitted if you are one or the other. It has to be both.

Hah! Now here's a thread bound to get people thinking....

Well, like Tina said, "What's love got to do with it?"

My thing is a lot of people think that just because they're in LOVE with somebody that it means they're supposed to be together.  I mean don't get me wrong, that should be the FOUNDATION but if you love me, and yet you can't keep it in your shorts, then what good can you really do me if you can't stay faithful or committed to me?  I guess what I'm trying to say is this:  if you are going to be with someone -- like FOREVER then it takes a lot of work and blood and sweat and tears.  And it's HARD as hell.  And you will encounter things/problems/issues you never thought you would have to deal with.  And at one point you will want to give up.  BUT, you don't.  No matter what.  Good, bad, ugly, indifferent.  That's commitment.  Whether you're in, out, or in-between love.  Love has NOTHING to do with it.  When you commit to someone or something (and I realize we're talking about MARRIAGE here so I will keep it in that context) it means you will STAY no matter what and NEVER give up.  You are willing to endure ALL THINGS.

Amen!

Mine is staying together and being a team , a unit at all times .... Putting your spouse and family before yourself and to never stop working at your relationship

Amen Oreo!!!  I've seen for myself what happens when the love fades--it's how you treat the other person and the marriage when the love part is hard to see, or gone completely.  It can/does come back, but only with hard work and committment!  :)

I'm all in with OREO!!!

the most important part of our wedding vows was when promised to always work on things together.....to me that's what commitment is, that no matter how hard it gets or what changes we face over the years I'll always try my hardest to work on it, to see his point of view, to show him appreciation and respect, to love him when he's being unlovable....

bascially...ditto Oreo!

well said Oreo.....very. well. said.

You guys have all defined it and I co-sign!