So some of you know from recent posts that Im getting married end of September and FI and I plan on TTC right away. However, we still want to have fun with it kwim? Im trying to decided if I should temp, chart, do OPKs etc or if I should just let it go and see what happens? Im afraid if I start doing all the "extras" Ill get stressed and it will just become a chore...whats you opinion? what did/are you doing?

What I'm planning on doing is OPK/temping... and then just DTD once I know I'm ovulating... and then see from there... I might still temp once we do start TTC after DTD... but I'm not going to be strict about it. I hear you, I want it to be fun too!!

After I went off the pill I just tracked my period and figured out I was on a 28 day cycle. For a while I just used the ovulation Calculator from the bump to estimate when I O'd. When we got closer to trying I downloaded Fertility Friend app on my phone so that I would know my O'ing range. 

I did find out fast that DH didn't like when I told him I was O'ing. He obviously knew what we were trying to do but wasn't a fan of knowing the specifics. :)

I'm not sure this has been suggested to you yet, but start taking a prenatal now (with DHA). I didn't realize I was supposed to be taking it while TTC until a few days before I got a BFP. 

DH and I did the whole, not stopping not planning thing when I went off BC in August before we got married in September.  We got preggo on our honeymoon.  We sadly lost that LO and have now been TTC for 6 cycles now.  I didnt track anything the first 3 months because we wanted it "stress" free too.  We just got frustrated after the 3rd month and I started using OPK and then started temping the cycle after that.  DH and I are now both to the point where it's all science and this month we DTD almost everyday to the point where it felt like work.  If we dont get a BFP this month,  I dont know what we'll do.

@milkgal- yup I started taking a Prenatal with DHA a week ago:) Ive also got a few books coming from a gf about TTC that I plan on reading  :)

@AuntTate- Same thing happened to my girlfriend...althought hey didnt miscarry (sorry about that!) but she was determined after trying for 4 months to no avail so they started DTD EVERYDAY and she too said it felt like work. THe next month her hubby was out of town for a week, then she was out of town for a week and was busy with getting ready for school to start (shes a teacher). They DTD ONE TIME that month and BAM! Preggo! She now has a precious 14 month old! Braelyn! It WILL happen for you!

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Our plan is to just DTD like rabbits and see what happens. We both don't want to overthink it/put too much pressure on it at first. If we don't have a BFP after 6 months then we'll start the extras. My Dr told me the same thing as well - if nothing after 6 months then I go and see her.

But there is no wrong/right way. Talk to your FI about it and see what he's comfortable with.

For me, the decision to temp and use OPKs had other factors involved.  I am 35.  My mother went into peri-menopause at 38.  DH is 43.  I am older by 10 YEARS than any woman on EITHER side of my family to try to have a baby.  Throw in some other health factors and my dr strongly encouraged me to chart right away.  We are even getting a pass on the regular "trying period" to have DH tested if we want.

We are not actually TTC until September - my dr wanted me off BCP for 3 cycles before we try.  We are using condoms during the first part of my cycle through 48 hours after I O - despite the using protection again, we are still making DTD fun and enjoying being together.

TTC doesn't have to be a chore, but you have to decide for yourself what is "too much" and if there is a need to have extra information on hand because of a situation that is unique to you and DH, like we have =)

I think this is a personal decisions.... I had a unplanned pregnancy with my first, now that were TTC for #2 soon I want to do OPKs just so I know. 

Were also shooting for a boy second time around and they say if you DTD the day you ovulate its a better chance for a boy so were gonna give that a whirl :) 

Clip - we DTD the day I ovulated and we had a boy :)