What's more important - wedding or honeymoon?

A coworker once told me to have a very simple wedding, simple gold rings, and splurge on the honeymoon to make it as unforgettable as possible. The reason? Because the wedding is just a party that lasts for a day and you spend it mainly on your guests who will not remember it that well, and a honeymoon lasts for much longer and you spend the money only on yourselves.

Wedding of course! :)

For me, the wedding is something I'm doing for myself as much as for the guests. I'm really looking forward to sharing that day with my closest friends and family, so spending money on it is something I want to do. That said, I'm being sensible about where my money goes. I'm not going ga-ga over favors because no one needs another knick-knack. I'm not fretting flowers because our location has lovely honeysuckle and jasmine vines that will be in aromatic bloom. My guests don't care whether they're eating off china or Chinet... but I do want the food to be good. And that's more or less how I'm setting my priorities. Also in my case, our honeymoon may/probably will be delayed anyway, so it's not like we don't have more time to save. ;-)

Erin your response is right on target! Spending tons of money on "stuff" isn't going to make your wedding more fun or meaningful. I agree that you have to prioritize what is important to you in making your day as special as possible.

Honeymoon is pretty low on our priority list. As long as it's somewhere we can get away and relax, I think we'll be happy.

I do agree that the wedding is a celebration to be shared... but ALSO... FI and I have asked the question.... "AWESOME wedding and OKAY honeymoon? Or GREAT wedding and STELLAR honeymoon?" We both agree that we'd rather put a big chunk of the budget toward the honeymoon and cut some of the less important stuff out of the wedding. And seeing as how I just learned how much my dream honeymoon would cost... YIKES! It's a good way we both feel that way!

I can't choose. I would say both are ='ly important to us.

Ditto MsKittie.

The wedding is more important to me.

Were kinda doing both by having a small DW in Kauai. We will be there for 7 days with 25 immediate family members and close friends for the wedding and pre/post activities and general vacation fun and then head to Maui for a 5 day minimoon, just the two of us. Then the following Spring we hope to head to Southeast Asia or Europe for a more extended honeymoon trip.