Thank you for your insight, cd5562!!  Wow--a chef!!  I would feel compelled to make him cook too (if I were you)! 

Everyone:  what really helps is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray.  My maid of honor who's a psych major gave it to us as one of our wedding gifts and she said "You must read it together."       I can't make DH read it right now, but I'm working on it.  But things like the resentment building up from lack of communication and are really eye-opening,  and also how our roles affect us.  For example,  we need to praise our husbands for the things they do (sounds corny, but it's true), to stoke their ego and make them feel valued.  When they don't feel valued, they start to drift. And their CAve.  It's hilarious to actually say it out loud but men go to their cave to work things out, and this is when they don't wanna talk (or come out of their "cave" until they solve whatever is wrong.  OMG!!!  It was hilarious when our interim pastor said "men need their caves" in a sermon.  This pastor is close to our age and it cracked me up that he mentioned it in church. I turned around and elbowed DH and said "See??"  LOL. 

LOL @ Platiunum - I've never read the book but now I'm feeling compelled to.  I mean I knew that men are so different from women... that's a give, and we just don't understand eachother most times... but if you just listen around you... listen to the way women talk to eachother... then listen for the way men speak to eachother.... it's like 'black' and 'white' lol... I guess the book is striving for 'gray' lol... Im going to have to check the book out... in regards to 'CAVE'.... shoot I feel I need to go to MY cave to think things out while my DH (while I appreciate his expressiveness) wants to talk about EVERYTHING!  Sometimes Im just not ready to talk and wish he would just leave me alone... those are the times I go to the bathroom and lock the door... I can spend hours there... but this time, he came knocking on the door.... I was like "What is it?"  he said "I want to talk"... since I wasnt ready to talk and he basically pushed me to... I was not very nice to him, but after 'letting it all out' I did feel better hahaha!  Gotta get that book now... Thanks Platimun~!!!!

Ok so I'm not the only one who HATES answering "How is married life??" And when I say, "fine" or "the same" people are APPALED! 

I am stressed because I'm in my final year of school with a lot of "pass or you don't graduate" exams coming up, and I still am the main cook/cleaner/dish-doer etc and feel very unappreciated and that he doesn't help me out as much as he should. 

He just got a new job and it adjusting the 8-5 work day, so I understand what it's like, since I'm at school 8-5 but then have to come home and study.  He sighs or sulks when I ask him to help out around the house, which makes me hesitant to do so becuase I don't want to get upset that he won't help me/see how much I actually do around the house.

On the other hand (when the house is clean and the dishes are put away) we're really enjoying each other's company and married life.  It's nothing to shout out from the rooftops, we're just.. so happy :]

Blustarfrut: It all sounds so normal... I suppose that anyone can say "we're doing great" or "we're just loving married life"... and not to say we arent but life isnt so simple ay?  Everyone should have these kind of stories but not many share them is all... it's like I said "its not easy to merge to individual lives into one"... more like a feat!  It's all good though!

*Cheers to all us May brides ;)

Nothing new.....almost 4 month married, woohooo!!! can't believe...

Son started college and is working at the same time!

And as for us....trying to reorganize our house, like "how wants a cleanhouse" type....well just like that.....

and last but not least when not doing anything else at home we take trips and do other things as we always do. Beginning of Oct wedding, end of Oct Ovo (Cirque du Soleil), Nov probably trip to Ct to celebrate my best friend "40" bday, and then to see one of my favorite group....blue man group....and then Dec....my birthday!!!!!

Just checking in! How's everyone making it so far? Any big changes (babies, houses, jobs, etc)?

We're still chuggin' along over here! We've been working on starting a family for the past four months with no luck. At first it was pretty fun ;) but now it's pretty frustrating! I know we'll get there but I guess I'm not much of the patient type!

Anyone planning anything for your 1 Year? It's already right around the corner!