We talked about this in pre marital counseling and even though I KNOW I'm supposed to communicate calmly, like an adult, I'm incredibly guilty of playing the passive aggressive, cold shoulder card.  I HATE that I do it but my pride just seems to refuse to let me be the first to give in!  I'm so stubborn...I'm working on it though!!!  :)

How about you?

I don't usually get mad, but when I do, I usually calmly talk through it. BUT...if FI does the "I need time away to think" act, I get VERY spiteful and say things that I should never say hoping that he'll fight back. That's what I need to work on.

I am kinda like you janie. I can act like a huge brat but I usually only do that over really petty things though ie. "why did you come home so late last night? you're annoying" type of thing. Fo bigger issues, I always talk rationally b/c usually a good resolution is paramount...

H doesn't really get mad often though...barely ever and he is def. a talker througher...

Usually, we just talk through things.  But sometimes, he is just a stubborn ass, and he won't even listen to what I have to say (this is usually when he is wrong and he knows it but doesn't want to admit it).  So then I just go in another room and shut the door, and when he has calmed down and wants to talk like an adult he will come in there and apologize and we will talk then. 

If DH does something that pisses me off, I will give him the silent treatment.  I am the silent treatment queen.  The thing is that is the way I have always been.  If I am mad, I literally can't speak.  I have to think everything out that way I do not regret what comes out of my mouth.  DH doesn't understand that and he has to have me say something & talk about it.  If I am mad now I just tell DH give me a few hours and when I am ready I know where to find you.  This is the only way b/c my tongue is my biggest flaw and I hate to say something terrible in the heat of the moment.

As for DH he hardly gets mad.  Probably b/c I am perfect! haha, jk.  If he is mad about something he usually will get up and walk away and i have to give him a hug and he forgives me.  I know we both would rather DH be mad than me.

Thankfully we hardly ever fight...In fact we have been together for over 2 years now, and I think we have only had 2 "official" fights all caused by me when Aunt Flo is in town.  I always get too sensitve about comments and I will twist something he says into something else and he will try and apologize and I will just put this wall up and then it blows up.  I don't know why that time of the month makes me so cranky!

RARELY...and I mean rarely...do we ever fight. But when we do, we usually just stop talking for a little while to get our minds together, then we talk through things calmly. I think taking a little break really helps us so then we don't start yelling our brains out at each other.

To the DEATH! Just kidding.  I'm usually the one to hold everything in, not say anything for a couple of hours, (silent treatment) wait for the FI to beg me to tell him what's wrong then I expode like a barrel of TNT.  Yes, I'm a little physchotic but I'm working on it!

hhaha im typically a passive aggressive / silent treatment kindda girl.. but every now and then I do love a good yelling match ;)

ugh...DH and I are bot hot tempered and our fights can get pretty explosive...One of us has to walk away or it'll go on for hours and just get worse.  We definitely are horrible at "fighting" and need to work on it.