As for me when I get frustrated I cry...because I am mad....

weeeeeellllllll I have discovered that we match the generalized characteristics of our astrology signs! :) I'm an Aries (yes, ruled by Mars, god of war). So you can probably guess that I am pretty explosive hheeeeeeheee! Hubby is a Gemini and is pretty low key for a while and then moody for a while and thats when we butt heads... So far we havent found a balance thats really good for us but we're starting to get better... hehe

lol. Glad I'm not the only one Janie!! Ok, I was never taught how to express my feelings, so I will often bottle them up. Then the cork pops out of the bottle and drenches dh lol. I'm also a feeler, it's about how things make me "feel". Dh is very low key and gets over things quickly. I on the other hand tend to beat a dead horse  =(  BUT I have gotten better!!

ditto wildfire- I totally play the cold shoulder card- it drives him crazy

I talk things out but I do get fiesty too haha

We are both the same -- we talk/bark and barely listen -- with that being said, at least I'm aware of it and am constantly trying to change.  Sometimes it is a struggle to not let something small go big because one of us is getting our feelings hurt (p.s. I'm WAY too sensitive and hate it... I wish I was rock hard, or at least more carefree).  DH is super wonderful though b/c he is always the peacemaker.... yikes, just writing this is very cathartic!  I need some humbling!!!

BF and I are bad fighters...We're both stubborn and bull headed.  I grew up with a Mom who'd give the silent treatment and I've finally learned/taught myself how to verbalize my feelings which goes for more than when i'm just upset.  But I tend to blow up over silly little things and let it ruin an entire day which is just terrible.  When bf get's mad over stuff he starts drinking and doing stupid guy things (using power tools and fixing stuff).  Which is good (minus the drinking. minus the danger of tools) because he usually gets stuff done around the house. 

I'm sure if a counselor heard all this we'd be in big trouble!!!  :)

its hard , most of the time im the one talking it out, but when its a real big one im the kind to retreat , i have to learn to verbalize an cool off before so i dont say things wrong

my main thing to work on is my body language. it can send the wrong message

I will not fight in public or around other people so if I get mad in those situations, I'll stay calm and pretty quiet until we're alone and then we'll have our words.  

DH however, doesn't care where we are, if he feels like arguing, he'll get straight into it, while I just stay quiet and ignore him which makes him even more mad.